Caught My Boyfriend Looking at Another Girls Photos on Facebook

I have been going out with my boyfriend for a couple of months. We met online and are still getting to know each other. 

The other night I was using his laptop (with his permission), and I couldnt help myself but look in his history. There loads of views of one of his friends photos in lots of different albums. It is a girl but as he had logged out of his account I couldnt see the pics. 

Should I ask him who she is or is it me being an idiot? 

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Well after a few months and your already trying to snoop on him? Truth is you wont let the relationship last any longer than it actually will. Truth comes out eventually always. Take it from someone who knows, jealousy helps NOTHING in new or in long term relationships.

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In my opnion find a good moment (maybe initiated by you direction) and ask him. If he really loves you he won't get mad at you. But ask him nicely but firm. My bf doesn't mind that as he has nothing to hide. My previous bfs always would completely freak out of such question. And as i lately figure out they really had some thing to do with the person i was thinking about. As one of them married her and the other went to live with her and is engaged to her.

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You may or may not, but know that before you judge, see to it you get everything right. Maybe that girl is only a friend of his. There are a lot of things to worry and this is not one of them, not unless they are flirting with each other.

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I would ask, but I don't know what kind of relationship u have. I would, some won't because u was snooping intentionally. And u got what u was looking for. But if I have to snoop then I have a reason to. Like I caught him lying and talking to other girls. And if that's the case I don't really need to b with that person if I got to snoop. He will be just a person I'm not seriously involved with then.

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a guy I was seeing for a few month kinda moved in I also went to use his laptop as it was connected to my printer and I needed to scan my lease. Funny thing was Yeah his facebook was open and guess what told 2 different women he loved them while under my roof, so I continued to check his history and wow the porn he looked up and teen porn. Also found he out was in love with one of his ex;s still I had dated him for a very short while years ago and same c**p then from him but he haad assured me he had changed. So I don't blame you at all, Technology has ruined many relationships and will continue to do so unless BOTH parties are open and Honest about everything I even have him my password funny he locked his after I spoke to him about it needles to say I kicked him out

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I've been there and done that. I don't recommend you question him about. He lend you his computer but you had no business checking out his history. It makes you look insecure and that's not someone a man wants to start a relationship with. Just be ready because if you do ask him and he had a reasonable excuse such as that's a coworker and old friend who just put up pics of a party or vacation and I was looking through them what would be your reason for not trusting him. Then it gets complicated because he can question if you're paranoid or have a guilty conscious. I'm telling oh so much to consider.

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I would ask, I think it is important that you determine the circumstance, especially seeing that it is so early in the relationship. As my father always says, "It is not about what you ask, but how you ask.."

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Asking never hurts. If he has nothing to hide then he'll tell you who it is. If not then you might want to slowly creep away from that relationship.

Only going on the "If" factor with this one, if he is hesitant or defensive about answering your question or you looking through his files, then there is something he is obviously hiding something. Maybe he could be cheating with the girl on the picture or confiding in her, which is pretty much the same thing when you think about it. "IF" that is the case then run, you have no need to work out issues like that, it's a waste of time.

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It's completely possible that he could get defensive, but not be cheating. He coups just want her to trust him, and be hurt that she was even looking. The pictures could also be very innocent. It could be a close friends or family member, and maybe they had a baby, and he's looking at their pictures. Where there is always a possibility of cheating, there is always an innocent answer as well.

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The "If" Factor.

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Always ask....

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I was in a similar situation. Fortunately I was able to see the pictures and see they were of a girl who was friends with a mutual friend of ours, meaning my boyfriend did not even know the girl and it was on our shared computer. I asked because I felt hurt by it and that the pictures raised cause to be concern that he might be attracted to someone else. While my boyfriend was innocent I think it did us good when I asked because I made him realize that things that may be harmless and unimportant to him could be misinterpreted by me or someone else and make him look bad. Your boyfriend could have been looking at just a friend or family members picture and could be very innocent so I say ask.

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