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I've been dating my boyfriend for around 4.5 years. We started out happy and fine but for the past year I can tell my feelings have been changing. I've changed a lot as time's gone on and he hasn't.
I've been feeling unhappy in our relationship for a while now and I just try to brush it off, but now it's really taking a toll on me. I'm constantly unhappy and stressed anytime I think about my relationship. I just don't think we're right for each other at all. We have nothing in common and we're just awkwardly and uncomfortably different. It's hard to explain but I just don't feel the same as I used to, and I'm simply not happy.
Everyone I've talked to has told me to do what makes me happy, or to break up with him. I honestly would do this but he's recently practically begged me to stay with him. He says he needs me. I know he'd be better off without me but he won't seem to think so no matter what I say.
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I was actually in a similar position. I am in 6 years long relationship. Two years ago I had a feeling that I am unhappy, although he is a great man, and he loves me. We are totally different and I did not feel attraction or excitement towards our relationship. He said that that he needed me and almost begged me to stay with him, and I actually decided to give it another chance and to work on myself and our relationship. However, I insisted on more space, and that was a good decision. I believe it made our relationship healthier. I have recently read the article on how to be a good girlfriend and get your needs done (http://www.howtogettheguy.com/blog/how-to-be-a-good-girlfriend/) and its tips are quite similar to what I did. It says that you should find a time to have your own independent sources of happiness outside the relationship.
I've just seen this post and apologies if I am way too late to comment but I just wanted to say I am currently in the same position. I've been with my boyfriend now for just over 3 years and we have a huge expensive holiday booked for this year. When I first got with him I thought he was amazing, everything I wanted! But my feelings have also changed towards him & I am having fantasies about having sex with my ex and am always thinking about other men and not him. When we are together we have hardly anything to talk about and he just irritates me. We used to argue a lot but now I've given up and I don't really care so I let him get on with what he wants to do. I broke up with him a couple of months ago and he begged for me back so I thought I'd give it another go - but I've realised it's just dull and boring and will never change. I do believe we won't last but I just don't have the courage right now. Since being in a serious relationship I don't have many stable friendships and I'm so scared to be on my own.
You should start thinking about "ME" instead of "WE" ... If you're not happy with him then you can't let his feeling dictate your decisions. You shouldn't settle and let yourself be unhappy forever. I was in a VERY similar situation. I was with my ex for about 4 years, we have one child together, and after a while I realized I was terribly unhappy but staying with him to be a "big happy family." I wasn't happy and our daughter wasn't happy. Leaving him was the best decision I ever made. Now I'm with a WONDERFUL man, I'm as happy as I have ever been in my entire life. Once I stopped letting him tell me how to feel, making me feel guilty for being an adult and making my own decisions, and stopped letting him control me, I feel much better. I think you should just move on :)
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The fact that he says he, "needs you" and begged you not to leave him shows that he has some issues that he needs to work out for himself. It is not healthy for him to be in a relationship where he is dependent on you. It would probably be good for him if you guys broke up and he learned how to live on his own and take care of himself. Sometimes the right thing to do is the hardest thing to do. Don't let his guilt trips keep you from doing what makes you happy. It is unfair of him to beg you to stay and should probably send you another red flag about him. Break up with him. I don't know if you could go from dating for almost 5 years to being friends but if you think you can pull it off tell him you would like to remain friends. Maybe you both would benefit from you two being just friends. If he tells you he can't be your friend at all or he needs some time to be just your friend don't be offended, that is to be expected. It sounds like he is a lot more attached to you than you are to him. Good luck.
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I would say you need to stick to your guns and leave him. If you're not happy, and he has to beg to be with you, he's probably not happy either. You'll both be better off going your separate ways.
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I can tell you from experience that you need to leave while you still can, while it's still half healthy. After struggling through a failing relationship for 3 years I found it very hard to leave. He was my first real love, and never wanted to hurt him. fast forward 2 years and he is very happy with a new girlfriend which is what he deserves, He may think right now you are what he needs- but if you aren't happy you cannot be making him truly happy to what he deserves also. Hope this helps some. Think of you both- not just him as much as you care about him! You may of started off as two alike people but life shapes and alters us into different people every day of our lives.
If you are unhappy leave. I got out of a similar relationship where my ex threatened suicide if I left. Eventually it came down to asking my friends for help, and they assured me that everything was going to be alright. They helped me keep him away even when he physically came after me and started threatening me. It is scary and I know you don't want to hurt him, but I stayed in mine so long that it became abusive. I almost dropped out of college my first year because of him. He lived with his parents, never had a job, lied to me about applying for jobs and dropped out of college after a few weeks. You're never going to be able to change him so I would get out of it. If you are afraid of him harming himself in anyway, talk to any of his family members that will listen and understand your side of things. I hope this helps :)
Wherever love takes you, the end of the road must be YOUR happiness. Since you have been with him for so long and have talked to your friends already you probably know the first step would be expressing the issue to him. But, if he did beg for you to stay I want to know if he is doing anything to improve your happiness. In the 4 years you two have been together if you are the one who has changed the most then that right there is a red flag. He wanted something to come from you being his girlfriend and the relationship altogether, but now it is your turn. You absolutely need to put your foot down and tell him, 'I'm not happy'. If that doesn't snap him out of it then you have no other option than to leave.
He knows that I'm unhappy. After trying to just deal with it for so long I finally had to talk to him about it a couple months ago. The past month has been full of us just sitting and trying to talk about the relationship. We've talked about it so much that now it seems that our meetings are just me crying and him not knowing what to say. I honestly don't know what he could do to improve the relationship. I think what makes me the most unhappy is feeling guilty that I don't feel the same anymore, and knowing how much I'm hurting him.
You guys have run out of things to say, that is a big sign that it is over. At this point you just need time a part. Maybe time a part will make you regain feelings for him but don't think about that. Focus on you not being happy and you getting happy. You will never be happy with anyone if you aren't first happy with yourself and in your own life. I was dating a girl for 3.5 years and there was just so much s**t between us that the only thing left to do was break up, I did not want to break up at all. She broke up with me even though I knew she still loved me. Well fast forward 6 months and we got back together and we are now better than ever. We just hit 5 years, we are happy and engaged to be married. Sometimes space is the best medicine.
If you're unhappy and he has done nothing or can do nothing to improve that, it's time to walk away. If he begs you to stay, just tell him "I'm not happy, and it's not changing, by asking me to stay, you are skiing me to live a life I no longer want, a life that no longer satisfies me. If you truly love me, you need to let me go, do I can find happiness, and hopefully someday, you will find it as well" and if he still begs, walk away, don't talk about it anymore, because if he isn't willing to change things, then he is just being selfish, it isn't that he can't move on, just that he's afraid. And if he isn't able to change, then why feel guilty? You are saving both of you grin greater heart ache, especial if, say, you get pregnant,. Trust your heat, and just let him know how it is, and dint take no for an answer, and if it comes down to it, and you feel you need to, have a couple friends hero you move out while he's not home.
That's what most people have told me. And I understand. I just can't bring myself to do it. He's expressed how much it would hurt him and I can't handle the idea of hurting him. I'm really just stuck. :/
You would hurt him less if you get out now. Do everyone involved a favor and leave. It's the only way to do this. You aren't happy, there's only one solution.
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4 years ago you liked a certain person, him. As time went on you matured, experienced new things, changed your perspective a few dozen times. Depending on how much he has done of the same you obviously don't feel the same connection. I would tell you to try and work things out but it seems like it's too late. You seem to have a clear point of view on the relationship and he does not. There is too much confliction. It's at a point where you two either get married or let everything go and move on. He isn't putting enough work in to change things because he is stuck in the relationship phase. I don't think he realized time caught up to you two and you expect more.
Well, the getting married thing's just not going to happen. He's not doing anything toward getting a job or getting out of his parents home, and I just started college. Which I really don't mind because I'm not sure I'd want to marry him at this point. I don't really expect more, I just expect something different.
What if he is not willing to give you something different? Maybe things went so smoothly before and now they are starting to crumble and he is panicking? It just seems he can't give you what you want.
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