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My girlfriend and I, each mid-20's, have been together for four months, and we probably have sex about once every few weeks. When we first got together, we became sexually active within the first week. Now, my own personal experiences before this were never very good, so I had a negative view on sex. My ex never really made me feel like she wanted to have sex. However, the first time my current girlfriend and I had sex, I felt amazing and confident. I found someone who I was completely compatible with, and it made me feel more confident sexually and its one of the reasons I feel so connected to her.
Well, we were pretty active the first few weeks, and then all of a sudden, not as active. After a few weeks, I brought it up to her, and she told me that she doesn't have a very active sex drive, and that she is "good to go" about once a week, or less. I understand the concept of honeymoon period, but I didn't expect it to end so quickly.
Now, we do have sex and when we do, its amazing. We are completely compatible, we both get off, and we are both completely enveloped in each other; each making the experience about the other person, and cuddling afterwards.
Sometimes when we are alone, showering together, or just holding each other in bed, I try to seduce her. There are times she will say No, and I will stop, however she has told me before that this sometimes irritates her when I do try. On the other hand, there have been times where she returns my advances, or changes her mind after saying No. I have once told her that it makes me feel unattractive if I try to goad things on, and the first thing she says is, "I'm not in the mood" followed by an excuse. It also makes me feel guilty for trying in the first place. She comforted me by telling me she is definitely attracted to me, just she isn't always feeling attractive herself or other things are going on.
Now she is very open, and has talked to me about her past experiences. She is more experienced than I, and sometimes she brings up these experiences when we are having a dry spell and it makes me feel like I don't satisfy her. However I am pretty sure that is not true.
She told me that one of the reasons that her and an ex-boyfriend broke up was because he wanted sex all the time. To be clear, Sex is not the only thing on my mind, but I don't feel like I should feel guilty for finding my girlfriend attractive and wanting to have sex with her. I love this girl and I don't want this to be an issue and come between us, which is why I am not sure if I should even bring this up to her or try to work this out on my own. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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