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How important is it that your partner buy you gifts in a relationship? Do you prefer bought things or made things? Are cards or notes important? Do you insist on flowers and chocolates? If someone never did these things would that be a relationship-breaker for you? I have some strong opinions on this one (as with every one), don't be surprised if I comment back with either passionate banter or enthusiastic agreement. Thanks for your input!
As a woman I'd say a bit of both. Meaningful gifts don't mean expensive. I'm always gifting my man so if I spend years with him and I don't even get an "I love you baby, happy birthday" I will probably break up with him. Staying with someone who gives nothing is pointless. Nothing meaning love and affection... And even the occasional thoughtful card... I love it more when someone makes it for me :)... But... :( alas no man has done anything nice for me at all.
I think you know this already, but you're dealing with the wrong men.
Gifts are cool, but definitely not a deal breaker. As you mature, you realize that material possessions aren't nearly as important as a good heart or real care. A chick watching my favorite program with me and trying to get into it means more to me than her buying me a new outfit or gadget. WAY more.
Nobody wants to say that they want gifts... and they mean nothing if you have to ask for them. but deep down they are important, showing someone that you saw something and just knew youd love it. or thought to yourself that you are particularly smitten with someone and want toshow them. but dont take them out shopping for their own gifts.
as a girl, ive never been given a gift outside of birthdays and a valtine gift, and even them i had to pick for myself. even though i liked what i got it wasnt the same
Buying things for me has never ever been something I wanted from a man. I prefer thoughful things. Whether it's something u made, found, bought.... doesn't matter. As long as it has meaning xoxoxox oh... and I LOVE chocolate Lol but I can always buy my own chocolate... and yes, I do share :-P
I think its important to surprise your partner once in a while, whether it involves money or not. Its the thought that counts either way. My boyfriend used to bring me flowers and candy etc all the time, and he used to tell me I was beautiful etc. everyday but now he doesn't do that as much. It means so much when he does/says these nice things now but I wish it was more frequently. Its the thought that is important though, not the monetary value I think.
I don't think its that nesaserly but it does show a lot of love and bonding and is a great way to show you care my huby spoils and I spoil him its how we are and we have an awesome relationship it just depends on your needs and how you show affection spoiling is not always gifts for us but we do give each other lots of gifts like food small things like cute lip balms or some nice fancy chockalotts just depends on your relationship I suppose
i dont think it really matters about giving and recieving gifts , because it shows affection and its nice but it doesnt have to be necessary. but I would love to give out a nice present one day.
does that really matter? if it's showing affection, it's nice, but i don't think it's necessary unless gift giving seasons. but i would love to give my gf flowers etc
You don't need physical things to be happy. My fiance makes sure everyday that I know he loves me and that's what's important. Everyone is different but that's still the sentiment that we seek with gifts. I like that we save the money without skimping on the love!
I love gifts especially from my boo..
I agree with Jess about not needing to spend lots on gifts. Something thoughtful and special to the two of you matters more for me. I had a long relationship with a guy I met at a music festival and we'd give each other mixed tapes. I also had a relationship with a guy who made almost no effort at all. He'd just want to take me shopping so I could pick something. He'd spend quite a bit of money but it left me feeling uncomfortable and let down. It's definitely the thought that counts for me.
I am married, and my husband really doesn't buy me gifts anymore but we have an understanding about wanting to be as financially stable as possible so we can begin to think about having kids. With that said, before we got married (and we haven't been married a year yet) he would randomly surprise me with flowers. I saw some cute flowers once in a store while we were grocery shopping and a few days later he bought them for me. When we had been dating for 6 months he wrote me a letter telling me that he loved me so much and that he was already sure that I was the one for him and just a bunch of cute stuff. I don't think store bought or expensive gifts are necessary for a relationship. I may be one of the few girls who feels this way, but the more expensive something is, the more it intimidates me because I'm afraid I'll break it or lose it. If my husband never gave me gifts or cards or just notes, it would be a little sad I guess, but not a relationship-breaker. Sorry I guess I'm all over the place with me answer, but I definitely would prefer something hand made or if he isn't very good with that kind of thing, something that is store bought that is more thoughtful. My birthday was actually 3 1/2 months after we started dating and my husband actually sought out my 3 closest friends on fb and asked them what they thought I would like for my birthday because I had told him I didn't want him to give me anything, and he took all of their opinions into consideration and gave me a bag of my favorite candy, a card, and then handed me one more thing which was a necklace. Almost 3 years later I still wear that necklace any time I leave the house. So once again sorry for my answer being all over the place lol but in my opinion, the best gift is something thoughtful and inexpensive but if my husband hadn't gotten me any gifts, it would not have been a deal-breaker in our relationship.
Sounds like what I was hoping would be average or normal. That is a compliment. I hope you wrote him back notes!
lol..writing back may not be necessary...since both hearts re full of love.
If the guy think of her enough to write her a not about what she means to him, it means he would love to get one back. People who actually care about other people get them gifts that they would want from someone else. A "treat someone how you would want to be treated" kind of thing. Assuming that he doesn't want a note back could completely backfire if he does.
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