I am so confused…

HomeCategory: BreakupsI am so confused…
Pactionly asked 6 years ago

My boyfriend told me 5 days ago, out of nowhere that he “couldnt do this anymore” and needed time to heal from previous issues in your relationship. He made it clear that he still loves me, and wants to get back together, but wants some time alone. If that means going to stay with someone for a month, or signing off of our lease and moving out… Whatever it takes. I asked how long he needed, and he said, “i dont know. A few weeks.. Maybe a month… Until I know that its not you or me… That we can be fixed. Im tired of fighting.” I told him that if we are on a break, that is breaking up, and there will be no more him and I. I can understand and appreciate needing space… But it is the middle of January, it is negative 6 out, I have 300 dollars, Nd nowhere to go. My bday is in two weeka. I also said that if he valued our relationship, he would want to work with me. He thinks absence makes the heart grow fonder… He wants to miss me. I say, out of sight out of mind… Taking a break for x amount of time and him kicking me out of the apt we share is going to cause resentment. We are both on the lease. If he wants space ao bad, I,think HE should go. I am not the one who is having an issue, and to that he retorts, “you dont have anywhere to go, yiu say… But you do. I REALLY have nowhere to go.”… He is more than willing to sign me off the lease… And honestly I dislike this apt anyway… So I wouldnt mund moving, if I had my ducks in a row… But we have been together 2.5 years and have been through worse together. I thought maybe he was trying to break up with me in a nicer way than just flat out “i want to break up.” But he has insinuated more than once that not only doea he want me to… But expects that I will wait for him to get through his emotional pangs and that maybe in 6 months or something we could try dating again. (conveniently when this lease on the apt runs up.) I dont know what to do. I know he cares about me, but he has become almost violently protective of his cell phone… We have similar cell phones, so he freaks out all the time and snatches my phone from me, thinking its his. He sleeps ontop of it with the ringer off… I know this is a classic sign of infidelity… Normally I would think that… But something is telling me that maybe he just doesnt want me to see whT he wrote to his friends about me… A little birdie told me that his buddies might move in… So he is already planning on me leaving. I cried for a feq dYs, but now ive come to a fork… I know I deserve better than this treatment… I dont even understand where ita coming from…once I began packing and apartment hunting, he started saying things to me like, “youre beautiful, I love you darlin, we will be ok one day.. I want to be best friends, I want to hang out sometimea, you will still have to come over and let me cook for you”… What the heck is going on?!?!