confused about what to do…

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WillGetThru asked 5 years ago

So, I’ve been in a relationship for the past 5 months, seeing each other for 8 months. I got out of a 7 year relationship about 1.5 years ago (Dec 2012). So, this guy is the first guy I’ve dated since my serious relationship. We spend time together, he’s sweet, does really nice gestures for me, i.e. bringing me flowers, telling me I’m beautiful and wonderful person, but I’m not exactly sure what I’m supposed to be feeling in this relationship. There’s things about him that I like…he’s extremely affectionate and I’ve never had that before, he’s conscientious, asks how my day is going, wonders about my goals, job hunting progress, and holds me when I’m emotional and need to cry…but I sometimes I get annoyed and angry at things he does. Like overall, I get annoyed when he doesn’t agree with me on things or at least doesn’t acknowledge my POV. Also, sometimes his personality starts to irritates me, he’s very eccentric and I’m not. He’s also told me that his parents don’t approve of me because I’m Black and they may never approve of me or want to meet me. Not exactly sure what to do, I feel great sometimes in the relationship (we’ve done so many fun things together and I’ve never had anyone be that affectionate toward me) but other times I get annoyed at him for being him. My question is, how do you know when to back out? When a relationship isn’t right for you. I still hesistate to post pictures of us on FB because I dont want people to think were a serious couple; I want to post pictures of us or change my status when I know this could go somewhere. I’m an extremely cautious person and was deeply hurt after my last relationship so I’m not sure if I’m nit picking at him because he’s not my ex or because I’m just getting annoyed at his behaviors, independent of my ex.