Help! Should this friendship become something more?

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Martenow asked 4 years ago

Hi, I would appreciate any advice. I’m in my late 20s.

There is this guy that I have known for a few years. We’ve always been pleasant and kind towards each other. I never considered dating him because he’s slightly younger than me though. I usually go for men who are my age or older.

UNTIL this past December/January. We ended up hanging a lot in groups of friends. I noticed that we got along incredibly well. He’s generally a flirtatious guy, but it seems like our flirtation has intensified. We often paired off together when we were in the groups.

He lives in another city. After we parted, I realized that he was on my mind quite a lot. There are very few men who seem to “get” me the way he does. I think I “get” him too. I’m not used to that. I seriously enjoy this guy’s company. There’s enough attraction on my side to make it work (I think.)

I didn’t forget him, but the intensity faded for me a bit UNTIL…

His birthday was on Valentines Day. I left a super simple birthday message on his Facebook wall. He replied and wished me a happy valentines day. He didn’t say that to anyone else who posted on his wall! Just me!

I private messaged him a couple days later and we had a brief convo. He “jokingly” suggested that I move to his city.

We barely talk–just the occasional Facebook comment or like. The distance between us complicates things. We both just got great new jobs in our respective cities.

Other men just don’t compare to him though. I want to be with someone who understands me like he does. We have so much fun together, plus we can talk deeply about things that matter. We have a lot in common.

I’m not sure when I’ll see him next. He pops into town unexpectedly. I want to spend more time with him. HOW CAN I MAKE THAT HAPPEN?

I would even like it if we could start messaging each other or something. Since I started the last private message, I don’t want to do all the initiating though.

Do you think he’s interested in something more than friendship with me? What should I do next?