I found this forum while thrawling the web for a site where I could get help. I know that this post is really long but I really need advice and it is necessary that you know the whole situation in order to give advice. I have been so insecure and depressed for the past months and I am just hopelessly desperate at this point.
I ended my relationship with my boyfriend last year in April. We dated for ten months. I broke up with him because I didn’t feel he was there for me. After I broke up with him I didn’t feel sad at all, and I was actually happy that he was out of my life.
That is, until recently.
In September, our town got a new student who came from a rural town in China. She has been the hottest topic of discussion among everyone living in this town ever since she stepped into this country. Everyone was talking about this stunning Chinese girl who recently moved here. It was all my school was talking about. Apparently, her friends from her school insisted that she make a Facebook account, so she did and I looked her up. I actually gasped when I saw her. She turned out to be the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. So beautiful you couldn’t even imagine, it’s beyond my comprehension until today.
Every male in my school began posting her pictures on sites like Twitter and putting the caption as “This is the real definition of beautiful,” “Can I meet this girl already?” and “This is hands down the most beautiful girl in the world.” Of course, my self esteem went down after seeing all these comments. I couldn’t even go out and be at the mall without hearing her name somewhere. People who weren’t even in high school were talking about her.
Last November I found out through a friend that she began dating my ex. My self esteem took the biggest hit ever. I have never felt so insecure in my life. Why? Because he found someone a trillion times better than me. Here’s why:
She’s unbelievably beautiful: This girl has turned every woman I thought was beautiful into a plain jane. When I say she’s beautiful, I mean beautiful, so beautiful you can’t even imagine. She is more beautiful than Megan Fox, Adriana Lima, Mila Kunis, or any celebrity you can name. And she never wears makeup. People say that beauty is subjective, but this girl has contradicted that saying. Her beauty is beyond your comprehension.
I’m pretty but am nothing compared to her. Plus, the only way I can be very pretty is if I put on makeup. And she is insanely stunning without makeup, which makes me feel worse.
She’s smart: She goes to a specialized high school here in our town that is for very intelligent kids. She is fluent in Mandarin, Russian, and English, which is insanely impressive because she came from a very rural town in China. She posted her report card on Instagram one time and she has a 100 average while taking all AP classes. She got a scholarship for getting a perfect PSAT score, which is almost impossible.
I take mostly regular classes in my high school and get average grades. I’m only fluent in two languages and don’t have any great academic accomplishements.
She’s talented: She is good at anything she puts her hands on. She’s posted her artwork on Instagram and it’s fantastic. She also went to New York for a month because she participated in a very prestigious dance show there, which she was feautured on the news for. She is a musical prodigy and plays ten instruments at a very advanced level, plus she sings opera amazingly. She’s good at sports as well, and is on six teams at her school. Plus, she cooks amazing Chinese food.
The only talent I have is one instrument. I can play the violin, but not half as good as she can.
She’s rich: Her family is very rich and they own this beautiful mansion in a wealthy neighborhood. My boyfriend posted pictures of her house in Instagram when he met her parents and it’s absolutely gorgeous. She has all these beautiful clothes from Chinese designer brands. She even treated my ex and his family on a vacation to the Bahamas for his birthday in January. Last week she took him and his family on a trip to Paris.
I could never in a million years provide my ex with what she is providing for him now, and I am not rich in any way.
She has an amazing personality: This girl has a killer personality and she’s so nice to people! Everyone in my school has made appointments to hang out with her and she’s so nice to take them all out somewhere. She’s very generous and is sweet to people. Many of them have even been to her house.
I, on the other hand, get very irritated with people and I am known for being a complete b****. If I were to act nice it would come off as very fake, since people already know who I truly am .
As if this is all enough for me, I’m being compared to her by everyone! When my ex and his girlfriend first started going out, I saw my ex’s parents in a grocery store. They were in another isle so they didn’t see me, but I overheard their conversation. His mom said, “Luo is so much better for Ryan than Miranda ever was, I’m so glad he is with her.”
Even my best friends agree that she is prettier than me. I asked my closest friend if she was, and she said, “Can I be completely honest? I think she’s absolutely more beautiful than you.” I already knew the answer, but it hurt to hear that.
I’m even being compared to her in my own house! The girl’s mother came for an appointment with my mother and my mother couldn’t stop ranting about how she had a Chinese client who’s daughter was the most beautiful girl in the world. I didn’t even need to ask who she was talking about.
The girl sometimes picks my boyfriend up with her limo and her driver, and when she walks out of her car in front of my school people act like she’s a celebrity. They literally begin taking pictures of her and praising how beautiful she is. This makes me feel so inadequate.
What’s killing me inside is that my ex is with someone beautiful, smart, talented, rich, and kind. I regret ever breaking up with him and I know that he will never get back with me because he has found someone who is absolute perfection. She is providing everything for him and he is with someone better.
Somebody please help me with this, because I really can’t seem to escape this situation. They have been dating for four months and every day this just eats me up inside even more and I can’t control my jealousy, insecurity, and anger.
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