Bisexual past…

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BoMan asked 3 years ago

I realised I was bisexual when I was in my teens. I explored equally with men and woman until I found someone I loved deeply. We have been together for three and a half years. We got married about a month ago. I was out with some friends when I ran into a guy i use to mess around with. We chatted for a matter of minutes and that was it. He text me the next morning how nice it was running into me. While I was sleeping my wife looked at my phone and asked me that morning who he was. She asked me if he was really a guy or was it a girl and was I hiding something. I told her it was an old friend I hadn’t seen in a long time and she had nothing to worry about. She dug deep and found out who he was and that he was openly gay. She continued to dig and found a Facebook message from 6 years prior with me conversing with a different guy I was messing around with at the time. She came home and “called me out”. After the panic reverted I came clean. I told her I was bi and had explored with guys prior to meeting her. I appoligised for omitting this fact of my life and for betraying her trust. My wife understands my upbringing being very southern and my family would not be nor are they understanding. She said she understood and loved me unconditionally. I felt liberated, free and more connected to my wife than ever. She promised me to keep this between us eventhough i thought if she’s beside me, I don’t care who knows now. She then told several people, which made me feel very insecure and betrayed. She apologized and I have forgiven her. Again if she’s beside me I doubt care who knows, she is the one I love deeply and want to spend everyday of my life with. It has been a fee days since this incident. She has become angry that I omitted/lied to her and in fearful she will leave me which is why I didn’t want to tell her in the first place. Am I wrong? Am I a terrible person for hiding this secret of my past? What do i do from here?