For some reason there seems to have developed a certain stigma about being single. I am not sure why as single life can be some of the best fun you will ever have. This is another subject that is never covered at school so I have decided to write a list of 10 things all single people need to remember before they get too downhearted.
1) Don’t just date someone because you are lonely. Have standards.
When you have been single for a while, it can get pretty tempting to accept the first offer of a date that comes along, even if at the back of your mind you know it most likely won’t work out. Don’t fall into this trap. If you start dating lots of different people you know are no good for you, it will be a waste of theirs and your precious time. Much better to wait for someone you feel a real connection with.
2) Don’t chase anyone
If you like someone and show them your interest and this is not reciprocated, it is time to move on. When people show you who they are, believe them the first time. If someone is showing you that they would rather not date you, believe them. Pick yourself up, have some dignity and move on. Plenty more fish in the sea.
3) Love yourself and your own company
I have covered this before but I will say it again. If you don’t love yourself, you cannot reasonably expect anyone else to love you. Take a good look in the mirror and see all the great things that make you YOU. If you don’t like anything you see, you can always work on changing and improving yourself. When you love yourself, just see all the attention you will start to get.
4) Things can change. And they will
Don’t let yourself fall into the rut of thinking you will be single forever and the perfect partner will never come along. There are 7 billion people on this planet and not all of them are spoken for. If you are ready for a relationship and want to meet someone, just remember to follow the other tips in this article and I assure you, that perfect relationship is right around the corner.
5) There are good people out there so don’t panic
When you have a bad relationship, or a series of bad relationships, you may start to think that the next partner you meet will also be a lying cheating scum bag. Well you are wrong, you are choosing the wrong type of person but good people are out there. You just need to be a lot more selective in who you start dating in the first place.
6) Be the person YOU would like to date
Although films like Jerry McGuire teach lines like “you complete me”, forget all that. You are your own person, not a jigsaw with a few pieces missing. You want the person you are dating to think “Wow, I cant believe I am dating him/her, they are amazing”.
7) Occupy yourself doing things that make you happy
The great thing about occupying your time partaking in your favorite hobbies is that as well as keeping your mind off the ‘perceived’ negative aspects of being singe, you also increase your chances of meeting someone that shares your passions. If you like to read, join a book club. If you like tennis, get to the club and play. This is such an important tip in keeping yourself in the right frame of mind and situation to meet someone new. (if that is what you want of course).
8) Focus on what you already have and be grateful for it
If you have ever read anything about the laws of attraction, you will know about this already. The basic rule of thumb is that when you focus on negativity, you give off negative vibes and people will end up wanting to avoid you. If you are upbeat, positive and focus on all the great things in your life, you will attract people who will want to spend time with you.
9) Learn to enjoy the uncertainty
You clearly cannot predict the future, but don’t let this get you down. “Will I be alone forever? Will I be an old maid? Where should I go to meet people?” Lots of people don’t like uncertainty and unanswered questions. But not knowing what is going to happen brings a great deal of opportunity. When you start to embrace this and see how exciting it can be, you will start to feel a lot more positive about meeting someone new.
10) Be patient
Rome wasn’t built in a day. The Great Pyramids weren’t even built in a century. In the same way, if you want to meet that perfect person, you may need to wait it out! Make sure you choose to be with someone that is right for you and never settle. You will know when someone you meet is the right match for you. You want to avoid ending up single over and over again. So decide what you want, and have confidence that in time, you will definitely find “the one.”