Finding a good man is hard enough. Keeping him is sometimes even harder. There is no rule book but in this article we are going to help steer you in the right direction

Wouldn’t it be great if we could climb inside the mind of a man to understand just what it is they are looking fro in their ideal woman. Well that is kinda what I am doing in this article after speaking to loads of different guys, reading books, watching and moderating our forum and learning the hard way.

Here is what men say about how to attract that special man and how to keep him from wanting to move on…

10 Secrets About What Men REALLY Want in a Relationship

1. Ignore any advice from your other single friends.

The sad reality is that they are probably giving you duff advice about men, especially if they’re rubbish in their relationships. Talk to your guy friends about men. They know what they want and it will most likely be similar to what your guy wants. Don’t worry about asking. They will be flattered. 

2. Learn to compliment your man.

It may be on the first date, on the phone, over Skype, in a text or wherever, don’t forget to compliment your man. You like to be complimented right? Well he is the same. Everyone likes a compliment. Tell him you like the restaurant he picked. Don’t lose sight of the importance of acknowledging what you like about each other.



3. Stop trying to change him.

There are far too many women who go into a relationship thinking they will change the guy. I gotta tell you, this kind of activity is controlling and in the end becomes ‘toxic’ to any relationship. Here are your choices. 1. Accept him, 2. Move on. Don’t impose your disappointment on him.

4. Learn what his passions are and try to show interest in them.

If he loves football and you don’t, make an effort to learn about the game. You don’t have to go to games with him or sit through the SuperBowl if you don’t want to. You’ll learn something new, and you’ll get brownie points for being curious and open about the things that turn him on.

5. Enough already with the jealousy.

If you’re jealous about his relationship with every female friend or business acquaintance, you’ll come across as needy and demanding, not the confident woman you are. If you trust him and his commitment to you, it’s okay for him to have female friends and appreciate the beauty of other women. If he’s a healthy male, he appreciates women. That doesn’t make you less special. Show your confidence. Confidence is sexy.

6. Stay in good shape.

Eat healthy, exercise, and take good care of yourself. It’s a sign of self-worth when you care about your health. It’s easy to become complacent when you’re in a long-term relationship. Take care of yourself for both of you. It has the dual effect of keeping him loyal to you and keeping you feeling good inside and out. And make sure he knows that you want him to take care of himself, too.


7. Men don’t like to talk as much as us girls do.

Women – we love to talk. The problem is, most men don’t love to listen to our endless chatter. So, save the girl talk for your girlfriends. Tell them about that great dress you just bought. Men tend to want the bottom line of your day, not all the little details. Share the highlights with him.

8. Stay open minded in the bedroom.

It is too easy to fall into a boring routine in the bedroom. You end up doing the same old thing every time and the excitement quickly dries up. Keep it spicy and fun. Be open, while staying within your own limits, and you’ll keep your relationship alive and yummy.

9. Help him follow his dreams.

Just like I am sure you do, he will have dreams and ambitions.  You need to support them. Even if you don’t believe in the practicality of his dreams,don’t make him feel bad by knocking down his hopes and dreams. Let him fail on his own. He needs a cheerleader on his side, not a Debbie Downer telling him why he shouldn’t follow his heart. I hope he does the same for you.

10. Never try to make him do something he doesn’t want to do.

It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t like your favorite band.  Maybe you should go see that girly concert with your girl friends and give him a night out with the guys. I mean would you really like him dancing round to Taylor Swift anyway?  It is important to have shared interests but it is just as important to have interests of your own. That’s fantastic. It means you won’t grow bored of each other.

Wouldn’t it be amazing to be loved for the real you and connect to the men you like?


Try to follow these 10 tips and you will be well on your way to get the most from your relationship.