Do you ever look back at past relationships and ask yourself “What was I thinking?”. Well you are not alone according to the majority of posts we see on our forum. To help you avoid wasting your time with Mr or Mrs Wrong in the future we have compiled this list of 10 signs you are dating the wrong person.
1) They think the whole world revolves around them
You went to visit their parents last week and they had the time of his life. This week you want to visit yours and they get all funny about it. Or if they are happy enough to drag you on nights out wit their friends but when it comes to nights out with yours they avoid it. Either way these are serious red flags that they are a little too self involved.
2) They don’t REALLY listen to what you are saying
Do they tell you about their day at work but never ask about yours? Do they say where they would like to go on a night out or a holiday but never ask your opinion? Or if after a long conversation, they totally ignore what you have said, these are all reasons to worry.
3) You don’t feel like you are “good enough”
If your partner never has anything nice or complimentary to say to you, they are not worth being with. You shouldn’t have to ask them for compliments and you should not be made to feel like you are not good enough. They should make the effort to put your feelings as their top priority at all times.
4) Your relationship is their only interest in life
If your partner has no hobbies, no interests or no other friends to hang out with, there is really something wrong with them. No matter how great you think they are, believe me if they are ALWAYS hanging out with you, it will really start to get annoying.
5) You avoid tough conversations
Do they want children? How many? What are their political views? What is their religion? All these questions should probably be avoided on the first date but after the 4th or 5th date, you are avoiding these conversations because you feel you will have totally differing views you have a problem. I mean if it is only a fling in your eyes then fine. But if you want this to turn into something more serious, it is a good idea to talk about “deeper” topics sooner rather than later.
6) Spending time with them drains you
If you find you are constantly wound up or arguing when you spend time with your partner, something aint right. Even the best relationships do include the odd fight now and then but this really should be an exception to the norm.
7) They still haven’t met your friends and family
If you have been dating them a while and have still not introduced them to your friends and family, there will undoubtedly be a good reason. The most likely reason is that you think your friends and family will not like them. If this is the case you need to do yourself a favor and pull the plug as they are not right for you.
8) You feel like you need to wear a mask
Your partner should love you for who you are. You shouldn’t have to pretend you are someone you don’t actually WANT to be to make your partner like you. If you feel they don’t like you for YOU then it is time to walk away.
9) They need companionship 24/7
If your partner is makes you want to scream with how clingy they are, you might be dating the wrong person.
It is not healthy and unwise to want a person to be your only source of happiness. Time alone isn’t just something that would be nice to have, but rather a necessity for your mental health.
10) The thought a a future together makes you wan’t to laugh, or cry
If when you think about a long term commitment, you want to curl up in a ball and cry, you might be dating the wrong person.
The thought of being single may not be the most appealing to you, but continuing in a relationship that is destined for failure is as stupid as it gets. If the relationship is not going anywhere and you have no realistic future together, get out now before you waste anymore of your precious time.