When it comes to making our guys happy, how come it seems like no matter what we do we end up feeling like we either did something wrong and he doesn’t seem happy? Is it that we are making the same mistakes again and again? There are some simple truths that can really transform our relationship and bring our intimacy to a whole new level.
One thing that has plagued most of us women, is overthinking things. But guess what our guys do the same thing! The best thing you can do in not to put shame on ourselves and climb into a hole and hide out until the heat has left.
Maybe we cannot take back everything that we have done in the past or even recently, but one thing that we could do is open up. We all know it is hard to open up when the relationship feels like it is not a safe place. Guess what though? The moment you open up and break that ice with your beloved man you are helping to create a safe place for both of you.
The last thing you want to do is like we said earlier overthink things and start having all of these crazy regrets. This doesn’t do anything for you or for him; it just gets you focused on the problem instead of the solution. Whatever you focus on in life is what you will end up becoming.
So we have some steps that you can take to stop yourself from making some of these mistakes and bring your relationship back to that magical place you desire.
1. Thinking That You Are Always Making The Mistakes
You know we are all human and we all come from different backgrounds. We learn from our childhood and bring whatever hurts and life ideals into the relationship. We need to get healing in order for us to offer our man our whole selfs unyielded to love and support them ____________________________________________________________________________________________________
2. Caring How You Look
Okay, Look ladies honestly you should care what you look like. Not for everyone else though; for yourself. Come on you deserve to be beautiful and feel beautiful and that’s exactly what you are inside. Now if you are doing it just for a man to like you that may be unhealthy. Make sure that he likes you for you and not your makeup. But come on regardless of what most people say it really is important to make yourself feel great.
3. Saying Sorry
So saying sorry is not a bad thing and actually it is really important to own your mistakes and clean them up. This is what makes you an adult. On the other hand when you going around saying sorry every time you think someone is mad at you then you are probably doing it for the wrong reason.
4. Wanting to Get More From Your Guy Than He Can Give
Okay Ladies this is really important and I’ll tell you why. The moment you have ridiculous expectations of your man that you know even in your own heart that he cannot follow through with them; you are treading on thin ice. You see men can handle just about anything but for some reason when people; especially their ladies, start putting on them things that they just can’t do it creates anxiety in them that they just cannot shake. This makes for a real difficult relationship.
5. Putting You Worth On Your Man
You see ladies you just cannot put your worth into anyone else because ultimately you are the one that chooses to be who you are and you are the one responsible for making yourself happy, Not Him!
All of us women know that we find our identity in our man but be careful not to draw your worth from him because you are worthy regardless of what anyone says.
6. Don’t Give Him Too Much Control
You see there is such a thing called mutual equality and it is something that should be implemented into every single relationship. You don’t own him anything and he sure shouldn’t be controlling you. Now of course there will be times when maybe he is right but use your discernment.
7. Regretting That You Are With Him
Now lets think about this for a minute. Do you really think that living in a sea a regret is going to help you out? Absolutely not and you need to live with the choices that you have made. Anyways it’s like crying over spilled milk, nothing good can come from that.
8. Believing Everything That He Says
Okay we all know that the typical guy will basically tell you anything he can to get in good with you. Just because someone tells you that you are beautiful does not mean that they are going to treat you that way.
Guys know what you want to hear and if you are gullible enough to fall for it then you probably will. Don’t be the next victim in his web of lies.
9. Stop Chasing Him
If he wants to go then let him. Don’t waste your precious time chasing around some baboon because you think that you are meant to be together. Get over him and move on. You can find someone else that is better anyways.
10. Stop Living In The Past
You see most of us women carry things from our past experiences. While sometimes you could label that as wise, it is actually not the wisest thing you could do. Don’t think that just because it happened a certain before that it is always going to happen the same way. Be open to the fact the people can change and you can too.