1. You don’t see a future with them
One of the key signs that you will never marry your partner is that you can’t actually imagine a future with them. Thinking about and making plans for the future is something that we all do, and if your day dreams don’t involve your partner, this says quite a lot.
2. You’ve been together years and have never thought to propose
If you and your partner have been together for a long period of time and you have never considered the idea of proposing, this is probably a good indicator that you are unlikely to ever get married to them. On the flip side, if you can’t imagine your partner ever proposing to you, this could be just as concerning.
3. Commitment scares you
Let’s be honest, commitment can be scary for a lot of people, and you are likely to be no exception. If you have a phobia of commitment, this is a pretty big indicator that marriage might not be for you, and that you are unlikely to marry your partner in the future.
4. You’re happy with where the relationship is
Being happy with where the relationship is typically means that you are not looking for big changes. Marriage represents big changes in the future, and this is something that a lot of people feel uncomfortable with, so you need to think about the current status of the relationship, and how this impacts things in the future.
5. You enjoy independence
There are so many things that play a role in a relationship, and having your own space is super important. A lot of people enjoy their independence, and marriage can sometimes threaten to put an end to this. If you’re concerned about losing your independence, this could be a sign you aren’t ready for marriage.
6. You’re avoiding questions about marriage
For unmarried couples who have been together a while, questions about marriage that arise in social situations are the litmus test. If you find yourself trying hard to avoid answering these questions, this might be a sign that you are never planning to actually get married to your partner.
7. You want an easy way out
A lot of people like to leave their opportunities open for exiting the relationship in the future, and marriage makes this more challenging. If you still want to have an easy escape route from your relationship, marriage might not be the ideal choice for you moving forward.
8. They aren’t “the one”
Many people believe in “the one” and soulmates, and they want to get married to the person they feel is their perfect match. However, you might not view your current partner as being “the one,” and this is something that is probably holding you back from proposing to them.
9. Money is a constant concern for you
Lots of people experience anxiety about money these days but, if money is a constant concern for you, you might want to reconsider marriage. Weddings are expensive, and and making a huge financial commitment is always a risk, so that might a factor that prevents you from getting married.
10. You aren’t traditional
Weddings and marriage tend to be quite traditional, and these days tradition is less and less commonplace. There are a lot of things that play a part in helping a relationship grow and, if you aren’t particularly interested in tradition, you might reject the institution of marriage in your future.
11. Your parents had a bad marriage
We tend to view relationships based on our experiences growing up, specifically, how our parents’ relationship was. If your parents had a bad marriage, full of lots of fighting and ending in divorce, this is likely going to color your view of marriage, and make it something you are keen to avoid at all times.
12. Your standards are high
Having high standards isn’t necessarily a bad thing, and you should be trying to enjoy the best relationship you can. However, you also might find that having high standards means you are never happy, and this is something that is likely to jeopardize your chances of marrying your current partner.
13. You don’t want to put in the work required for a marriage
Marriage is hard work, there are no two ways about it. Any relationship requires work, but marriage in particular has an extra layer of challenges that you need to spend time on. If you are not prepared to put in the hard work, marriage is probably not right for you.
14. Owning property is more important to you
Owning property is becoming less and less of a viable option, and that’s why some people value it more than ever. If you’d rather own a property than get married then that is going to take precedence. These days, it often comes down to one or the other, not both.
15. You’ve not been together very long
Marriage is meant to be a lifetime commitment, and this is something that you need to consider when thinking about proposal. If you and your partner haven’t been together for very long, marriage is probably not the logical next step in your relationship, so this is something to bear in mind.
16. You don’t love them
Another thing that plays a role in deciding whether you will or won’t get married to your partner is that you don’t love them. You shouldn’t get married if you are not in love with your partner, so this is something you need to keep in mind when making your decision.
17. You’re ignoring all the hints
One of the biggest indicators that you are never going to marry your partner is that you keep ignoring all the hints they are dropping. Some hints are obvious, others less so, but you should pick up on them eventually. If you are deliberately choosing to ignore these, you are probably not interested in marrying your partner.
18. All your exes were crazy
Whilst it’s true that everyone is different, and you shouldn’t judge your current partner based on exes, it’s also true that bad experiences can impact perceptions. There are loads of different factors to think about when it comes to marriage, but if you had crazy exes, it’s a good bet you won’t be interested in marriage.
19. You can’t or won’t make compromises
Any relationship, and particularly marriage, is about compromise, and this is important to keep in mind. There are a lot of things couples may not agree on, but to make things work you have to be prepared to compromise. If this is something you’re not willing to do, this is a good indicator you don’t want to get married.
20. You don’t see the point of marriage
Look, let’s be honest, not everybody wants to get married, and this is perfectly fine. If you are someone who doesn’t see the point, or the appeal of marriage, then you probably won’t want to marry your partner at any point, and this could lead to friction between the two of you.
21. It’s not a priority for you
In some cases, it might simply be that marriage is just not something that is a priority for you in your life. There are a lot of things that you need to get right in your life, and sorting out the essentials is really important. You need to determine whether or not marriage is a priority for you.
22. You don’t believe in monogamy
Monogamy is the cornerstone of a traditional marriage, and if this is not something that you believe in, it might be that marriage is off the table for you and your partner. This is a conversation you will need to have as a couple before you make any important long-term decisions.
23. You believe in monogamy but your partner doesn’t
Another element to think about is that you might believe in monogamy, but your partner might not. It is common for couples these days to have open relationships, but this type of thing doesn’t always translate well to marriage, so you need to think hard about whether this is right for you.
24. You’ve spent most of your life single
If you have spent most of your life single, this might be a situation you like and are comfortable with. Getting married changes all of this, and that may not be something you want to do. If you’re not ready to give up the single life, then it’s unlikely you’ll end up marrying your partner anytime soon.
25. You’ve never experienced love
If you have never experienced love, this might have a damaging impact on your view of marriage. It might make it less of a viable option for you to consider, and may also mean that you have little to no interest in actually getting married.
26. Old habits die hard
Old habits are the most difficult to shake, and it’s very easy to get stuck in your ways. Marriage brings about changes that might actually force you to reconsider your old habits, and try to break them. The problem is, this is something that is easier said than done.
27. You hate weddings
If you hate weddings it is likely that you are never planning on actually having your own. And this is something that is going to put you off from proposing to your partner. However, if this is the case, you should be upfront with them about it before the issue of marriage is raised.
28. Your partner doesn’t want to get married
It might be the case that you want to get married but your partner actually doesn’t. In this instance, you are unlikely to find common ground, and this is going to have a big bearing on the future of the relationship. If your partner has no interest in marriage, it’s unlikely you’re ever going to marry them.
29. You don’t want kids
Marriage doesn’t necessarily mean kids, but it is the next logical step after tying the knot, and this might not be in your life plan. Getting married brings the concept of kids much closer, and if this is something you are keen to distance yourself from, it’s pretty clear you probably won’t ever be getting married to your partner.
30. You’re getting older
As you get older, the idea of marriage becomes less appealing, and probably a bit less viable as well. There are a lot of things that you need to consider as you get older, and this is something that is likely to make the idea of marriage a much less viable concept moving forward.
31. Change frightens you
Change is a big part of the process of any relationship, and marriage signifies big changes. The problem is that you might be frightened of change, which is going to make the concept of marriage one that is terrifying for you. If this is a problem for you then marriage is probably not going to happen.
32. Travel is a key part of your life
If you love to travel and see the world at the drop of a hat, marriage is probably something that won’t be that appealing to you. Having the freedom to be able to travel and see the world is exhilarating, but the commitments that come with marriage mean that this is not a viable option for a lot of people.
33. The idea of planning a wedding freaks you out
Let’s be clear, planning a wedding is very stressful and intensive, not to mention expensive as well. If the idea of planning a wedding fills you with dread and makes you worry and freak out, then it’s probably not for you. A negative view of weddings is going to lower your chances of getting married.
34. You’re a shrinking violet
The thing about a wedding is that you are the center of attention, this is going to shine a spotlight on your insecurities. If you are a person who dislikes being the center of attention at all times, you’re probably not looking forward to the wedding day and possibly wish it never happens at all.
35. The past is where you live
Living in the past is natural for a lot of people, but this is also something that can be a negative. If you are perpetually stuck in the past, it is unlikely you will be looking to the future, and this is going to impact your desire to get married.
36. You’re risk averse
Let’s be honest, getting married is something of a risk, and there are a lot of things that you need to consider when it comes to making it work. There is always the risk of the marriage failing, or life becoming harder in a lot of ways, and if that’s all you focus on, then you’re unlikely to take the plunge.
37. You believe that marriage won’t last
There are, of course, concerns that the marriage may not last, and this is entirely natural to have as a concern. So, you need to make sure you keep this in mind when it comes to making a decision. There are loads of different elements that will help you make the most of this, and if you believe marriage won’t last, this is likely to mean you won’t be marrying your partner.
38. You believe in needing different people at different stages of life
The person you are now is not the same person you were a decade ago, and you are likely to have different people in your life as well. With each phase of life, we have different needs and requirements, and this is why it is essential to make sure you aren’t tied to the wrong person for this new phase of your life.
39. You’re aware that feelings change
Whilst you might be in love now and everything might be great, we know that feelings change, and this can lead to couples drifting apart in the future. If you are concerned about feelings changing, this is something that might put you off of getting married at all ever.
40. You’re afraid of getting hurt
Many people averse to marriage are afraid of getting hurt, and this is why they choose not to tie the knot. If you fear getting your heart broken, this is one of the biggest reasons why you might not want to get married, and this is something that is more common than you might think.