In the early stages of a relationship, it is common to want to explore and know everything about your new partner. Clearly you wish to sit and ask them hundreds of questions to find out more about them, however there are certain questions it is advisable never to ask them. There are certain questions that will either just upset your partner or even more importantly, upset you. Here are a few of the most common questions you should avoid asking.
“When did you last sleep with someone?”
For the girls especially, you may as well spare yourself from the disappointment of knowing and NOT ask questions which you truly do not want the answer to. In my opinion, if your goal with this new partner is to make it last, just don’t bother asking. Imagine if their response was something like, “Uh…it’s been a while…Like 10 days,” and you’d be slightly distraught; especially if you’ve been seeing one another for longer than that. Just avoid the upset and don’t bother asking.
“How many people have you slept with?”
The person you are dating will always have a preconceived notion of what you are like sexually based off the impression you’ve given. Being honest in this area can be a make or break situation. You say too little, and they’re worried you can’t deliver. You say too many, and they’re either disgusted or worried everyone has had a piece of you. Even if their answer is up to par with your standards, you may not want that question asked of you. Keep an old-fashioned ideology when it comes to this question: less is more. The less you reveal, the more they want to know.
“Have you ever been unfaithful?”
Take into consideration that if your partner answers this question too early, it can feed the insecurity in a brand new relationship. Asking this question is going to put cracks that you don’t
need in the foundation you’re hoping to build. No one can build a steady wall on a downhill slant. Wait a couple months before asking this quest
ion. It can mean the end before you get to appreciate the beginning.
“What are your thoughts on marriage?”
I will warn you now, stay away from putting this question out in the air too early. No new relationship should even fathom the idea of marriage. This question has a time and place that make it acceptable. There’s no need to rush the wedding conversation, so just enjoy the relationship you have now. You do not want to scare your potential partner out of committing to you. Let each commitment flow naturally and see where the current takes you both.
There are clearly a lot more questions that are sometimes best avoided, or at least left until the latter stages of dating. Just try to imagine how you would respond to a question before you ask it if your partner. If you think it may cause upset and discomfort, it is maybe better not asked. If you can think of any other questions that are maybe better left unasked, please add them to the to list in the comments.