You may have read our article 7 Ways Low Self Esteem Affects your Life.
1) Think about the first time you did something new.
You might feel nervous thinking about trying something new but if you can think back to a time where trying something new made you feel confident and excited it can put your mind at ease that it is perfectly normal to take risks and try out new experiences.
2) Do something on your to do list.
You may have been putting things off lately. Write a list of what you know you SHOULD have been doing lately, gardening, ironing, calling a friend, organising your bills. You need to make decisions or your life will fall apart. Start now and complete each task within a reasonable time frame.
3) Do something you are good at.
There will defiantly be something you know deep down your good at. Singing, painting, swimming, writing… Find something to do that will hold your attention and take your mind off how you feel about yourself. Even something as simple as a jigsaw can be rewarding and require a lot of concentration.
4) Try not to think about yourself.
I know this sound odd, but low self esteem is often accompanied by too much focus on one’s self. This doesn’t mean you are selfish, it means you are worrying about yourself too much. Anything that can take your mind off yourself will help you relax.
5) Get seriously relaxed.
If you are feeling low, anxious or lacking in confidence, the first thing to do is to stop thinking and relax properly. Exercising can be very relaxing, from yoga to going for a run. Relaxing yourself by using just your mind is practiced by many people. Look up ways to practice self hypnosis, meditation, or a physically-based relaxation technique such as Tai Chi. When you are fully relaxed, your brain is less emotional and your memory for good events works better.
6) Focus of your achievements.
Although this can be hard at first, over time you will develop a handy mental list of self-esteem boosting memories. Start with little things such as passing your driving test (despite being nervous), passing exams (despite doubting that you would), playing team sport, getting fit (even if you let it slip later), saving money for something, trying to help someone (even if it didn’t work) and so on.
7) Listen to others.
You might have people around you who will compliment you, however you may tell yourself they are just trying to be nice to you. Consider that they are telling you these positive things about yourself because they actually believe them. Most people will only give compliments that they truly believe are true.
Try out each one of the points above; don’t worry if they don’t all work for you. The ones that work for you could be incorporated into your life daily. Good luck! X