With Valentines’ Day just around the corner it’s the perfect time to bag that much coveted first date with that hottie you’ve had your eye on! Well, we know that however exciting the prospect of that first date can be, it’s also really nerve racking, after all, what we REALLY want is a second date (even if we decide we don’t want to go on a second date we at least want to be asked!) We’ve put together some key pointers to follow during you date to make sure you impress that special guy and keep him coming back for more!
It may sound obvious but it’s all too easy to suddenly find yourself clamming up through nerves and although it’s not done on purpose, it will leave him feeling awkward and uncomfortable if he’s left to waffle on one sided. If you think you might suddenly develop mind block then spend a little time beforehand thinking about interesting things you could talk about. It doesn’t have to be anything complicated, you’re not trying to blind him with science and it’s defiantly not the time to start talking about exes! It’s an ideal time to tell him your interests, likes, dislikes etc and it will help you see how much you both have in common. Try not to monopolize the conversation though, use what you have to say as a route into finding out more about him.
Half the fun of a first date for us girls is the getting ready but it will pay dividends if you put a bit of thought into certain areas of your routine. From the make up to the outfit to the way you carry yourself on the night, it can all play a part in how likely he is to ask for that second date. Make up needs to be slightly stepped up a gear from your regular daytime look (you want him to know you’ve made an effort!) but not so ott that you become reminiscent of a drag queen! The dress need to be suggestive without saying ‘sex worker’! but something that make you feel confident yet comfortable and you need to carry yourself with femminity and grace (in other words go easy on the cocktails & consequent stumbling/slurring!) The old cliché of leaving a little to the imagination (note the distinction between little and ‘a little’ – in other words less is more.
As in most situations in life it pays to show an interest! Listen intently to what he is saying and look him in the eye whilst you’re doing it. Don’t interrupt him. Give him your undivided attention. Don’t be distracted by other people in the bar/restaurant you’re in (even the cute ones!), don’t be texting your friends (more than the standard sneaky one off text from the toilet to rate your date 1-10!) and don’t be checking Facebook or updating your status every five minutes – it’s rude and there is no bigger turn off!
Don’t sleep with him on a first date!
We’re sure we don’t need to tell you this, the golden rule when it comes to dating, but taking into account those first date night nerves we know it might ‘slip your mind’ (!) so we would like to reiterate – never have sex on a first date! In fact we’d like to go so far as saying restrict things to just a kiss on a first date, no matter how much u fancy him! There is nothing wrong with taking some time out, giving them a bit of a challenge and leaving them wanting more. Plus it gives you a chance to reflect and be sure it is what you really want.
Be true to (and about!) yourself
Perhaps above everything it is essential that you stay true to yourself and be honest about yourself. This is crucial to helping a date go well. After all if u want a second date there is no point securing one under false pretence. Remember the very reason you are on the date is because he’s already interested – in YOU, so think positive, don’t try too hard, stay calm and follow our final top tip which is very simply to…..enjoy and HAVE FUN!!
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