A lot of the time these days, relationships may start on-line or by swapping numbers with someone. Whether texting, Skype chat, Facebook chat or whatever there are some basic guidance steps you can follow to give yourself the best possible chance of thins going to the next level.
Too much texting in the early stages, sometimes before you have ever met face to face can sometimes be a bad thing. You can inadvertently cause the relationship to stall in a faceless comfort zone before you have even been on your first date. CATASTROPHE! You do not want to play it too cool but there is a balance you need to try to strive towards.
Follow these simple steps to avoid this happening.
Be sure you both want the same thing
Before in your head you start to plan your happy life together, take some time to work out if he wants the same a you. If you met through a friend in a friendly way, this may be all he is after. If you met on a dating site, it is pretty obvious he wants the same as you. If he approached you in a bar and gave you his number, its pretty much on!
Flirt and don’t be shy to do so
Once you get the green light to proceed, get flirty with him. I have yet to meet a guy that doesn’t like a bit of a flirty message. Also show your personality in your messages and keep him on his toes. Texts like “hello James, I look forward to our meeting tomorrow” are BORING. Much better to send “Hey James, Can’t wait for our walk in the woods tomorrow. Will be nice to get you to myself for a change”. Guys are always in these early stages trying to find out what you think of them. Giving little flirty signals here and there will be sure to keep him interested.
Don’t give too much away
If you tell him too much about yourself in the early stages, it will leave little for him to chat about when you finally do meet up. Don’t use texting as a means of real conversation. Keep it to short fun statements and funny sweet things that will make him think of you and look forward to seeing you and chatting to you for real.
Top Tip – Discuss activities
You are looking for a date right? So why not steer texts towards talking about activities you like to do or have done in the past. “have you seen the trailer for the new Superman Movie?” lets him know you want him to take you. Maybe try not to be as obvious as that but let your texts subtly steer him toward the idea of where to ask you on a date.
Remember these tips and you will be on for your first date in no time. Remember do not be too stalkery but try not to play too many games. If you have any further tips please leave them in the comments below.