It is so easy to look at your less than ample chest, your flabby thighs or that pesky cellulite or scars on your legs and start to hate your body.

You may even discuss these worries and share them with your friends. These discussions often turn into your friends and you having a slagging match about how rubbish your own bodies are and how you are far from perfect. This then turns into worry about what your partner or potential Mr Right may think if he saw you with your clothes off. How could he find you desirable when you are so gross? This can then even put you off getting with someone in the worry they may be put off when they see your body.

Well I am here to tell you that you can feel really great about your body, no matter how far from perfection you think you are.

Follow these 3 steps to start appreciating how amazing and beautiful you really are.

1. Confidence is key

Thinking negative things about yourself will undermine your overall confidence, and the irony is that by being more confident, you will be more attractive. Don’t think that if you get rid of your faults, you will instantly be more attractive and never worry about yourself again. All that would happen is that you would find other flaws to focus on.

Your beauty is defined by how unique you are – and no matter what you think, you are beautiful in your own way. You have to recognise the beauty in your eyes, your smile and your unique look as well as in your character and personality, and bring that out with every person you encounter.


By friendly and open, and 100% genuine, you will be seen as attractive and that makes you irresistible to others. That way you will create a positive vibe around yourself.

Don’t ever be down on yourself in your head, to your friends and especially not to guys who are totally bemused by women hating their bodies (They love them – every one!) And never, ever compare yourself to anyone because you are uniquely you, and that is all that counts.


2. Take Time Out to Indulge Yourself

Make you and your body feel loved with lots of special pampering. Depending on your budget this can be specialist treatments in a salon or it can be as simple as looking after your skin, hair and nails at home. It doesn’t matter.


It is essential that you take time to look after yourself so that you make the most of what you do have, you are sparkling clean and fresh, your skin is soft and smooth, your hair is well-cut and healthy and your nails are well-kept.

You will feel so much better when you’re well-groomed and looking your best and you’ll look good to your guy too. After all, what’s not to like about beautifully soft skin, newly washed hair and pretty pink toe nails?

3. Flaunt it

As well as paying attention to your grooming, show yourself in the best possible light by wearing the right clothes for you. Clothes that suit your body and personality will make you feel good, increasing your confidence and they will make your guy appreciate you for yourself too.

You don’t need to put everything you have on display to be attractive to guys, but don’t hide yourself away. Simply show off what is unique about you in your style of dress – in particular your particular brand of femininity. And extend your personal style to your undies too. Remember, no personality warrants graying underthings with sagging elastic, so get rid of that stuff.

There’s a trend for black, gray and white androgynous clothes but they rarely show the vulnerable feminine side that guys love. It doesn’t mean you have to go all out pastel and floral, but do show glimpses of your softer side when you’re out of the office.


Over time, by taking care of your negative thoughts, looking after yourself and dressing your best, you can learn to be truly happy with yourself and the woman you are. Love yourself and your body, and  your guy is sure to follow suit.