The following post was taken from our Relationship Forum. It is written by a foreign girl so excuse the poor use of English. You will however be able to understand the main crux of what she is saying.
I am 20 years old and I want to ask if the guy has feelings for me or he just felt lonely and needed intimacy.
Okay so here’s how it goes. We work together in the restaurant and I am just an intern. I’ve been in the restaurant for almost 6 months and this guy I have been catching him looking at me most of the time and we smile at each other. And this past month, he has been very touchy and likes to tickle my back. Until to the point I also held his back and gave him a bit of flirt back. And so we got to sleeping together because we were flirting in our house and so he went to my bad and ever since that we were sleeping together for 2 weeks.
Until I have to leave the restaurant for another job because it is far away. So I had to say my goodbyes but we were like a couple. We were walking around together and very intimate. But he has a complicated relationship with this girl. He doesn’t know if he considers her, his girlfriend since they are on a long distance relationship and they barely talk. But now I move to a different country so it is hard to communicate with him. I don’t know if he has feelings for me or he just felt lonely and needed intimacy.
He wouldn’t let me go when I said goodbye and catch my flight. I am confused. He has a complicated relationship with his girl because in the restaurant, we work a lot. Almost everyday we work and don’t have time for leisure. Just a day to relax. So they don’t see each other that much so he thinks his girl has another guy. So he doesn’t consider it much as his girlfriend. I don’t know if he has feelings for me, interested to be with me or just sleep with me. Its been days that we’ve been a part since I left the country.
After reading this, I must admit the whole situation sounds pretty messed up.
Number 1 – The guy is clearly a total douce bag if he is feeling the girls back and flirting when he is at work. If he is currently in a relationship with another girl, ALL his coworkers should be off limits.
Number 2 – The “feelings” the guy has for the girl to me seem like feelings of lust more than anything else. She should go home to her country and see how much effort he puts in to keep in touch. Having said that it is pretty unacceptable for the girl writing the post to be seeing a guy when she knows he is already in a relationship. Its called the “girls code”.
Number 3 – If his feelings were strong enough and if he was a real man rather than a spineless cheat, he would have confronted the issues with his current girlfriend before moving on to another woman. He would also make his feelings totally cleat to the girl writing the post, rather than leaving her confused and wondering what the heck is going on.
Guys – Be clear with what you want in your own mind before you play with the hearts of other women. It is unfair to use a girl as a girlfriend to fall back on while you try it on with other girls behind her back. Be honest and genuine. It is actually one of the most attractive qualities a man can posses.