Internet cheating or online cheating can include sexting, swapping pics, flirty emails, Skype exchanges and other such behaviour without necessarily meeting up in real life. The bad news is that there are now so many more ways that partners can betray each other. Although in the early days, couples are still looking at each other with loving puppy dog eyes, the harsh reality is that neither partner can be sure what is going on behind their back..
A big problem is that the internet and cell phones can provide almost immediate access to the potential to cheat (virtually). The fact that there is no s*x involved or kissing or any physical contact can lead the virtual cheater to justify this behaviour their own mind. As you read this, if you are in a relationship you will probably already be wondering if your partner could be involved in such an affair. For this very reason I have compiled a check list of signs to look out for.
SIGNS OF INTERNET CHEATING
If you notice your partner or spouse becoming very protective over their cell phone or laptop this could be a sign. Remember that some people are just private people so if they have always been like this, it may not be to worry about. It is the change in behavior you need to look out for. Switching of web pages, shutting down the laptop when you walk in the room are all signs to be wary of. If your partner or spouse will not add you on Facebook or Twitter, this is a big red flag!
They should be happy for you to see their social networks if they have nothing to hide. Once again, just something to look out for. Your partner may just be being private if they are planning a surprise such as a party or a get away for you both so if you are going to accuse them of anything, check your facts thoroughly. If they suddenly jump on their phone or laptop when a message comes in and wish to respond immediately, this can also be a sign.
This could of course just be normal innocent behaviour if it is a text from a loved one or an important work matter so once again be careful before you go accusing them of anything. It is a bit ethically wrong but if you do suspect your partner you could check their internet history or phone records to see if there is anything that stands out there. This is really a last resort as it is very un-trusting and if your partner has nothing to hide and catches you snooping, they will not be happy. Changes in behavior to you are also a sign to look out for. Is your spouse or partner suddenly buying you gifts for no reason when they never used to. Are they being extra nice to the point where they could be feeling guilty about something?
Finding that your partner has more than one phone without you knowing should raise a big red flag. On a lighter note, they may have more than one social account on Facebook or Twitter. Do they have dating profiles set up or are they using more than one email address. These are all things to also look out for.
WHAT TO DO ABOUT ONLINE CHEATING
If either you or your partner are cheating virtually, you should discuss what you feel is appropriate and inappropriate behavior when it comes to online activities. If you create rules in the early stages, you can feel confident that there will be no confusion later down the line if one of you does stray into online cheating. Some people are not even sure what is acceptable when it comes to online behavior. All that matters is what you and your partner or spouse think so as long as you set boundaries you should be fine. Try to keep communication flowing in your relationship. As long as you both have a rough idea what each of you are up to, you will feel a lot more confident. You should be open with one another.If you keep secrets in a relationship about things like this, it is a slippery slope. As in most areas of life, communication is the key! If you do find out or are admitted to that there is any form of cheating going on, there are channels you can explore such as counselling or support groups. That is obviously only relevant if you think the relationship is worth saving. As with other forms of cheating, the person who cheated will have to regain trust and hope that their partner can regain trust.
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