Is dating an older man exciting and adventurous? Or is it gross?
Is it frowned upon or is age just a number? Society is confusing in defining these questions. Some encourage it, some look down upon it. Personally, I’ve heard people say it’s good to date a man with experience. I’ve also heard people say it’s disgusting for an older man to go after a younger woman, but the truth is, it has nothing to do age. It’s all about maturity.
Between men and women, hormones look completely different at different stages in our lives. When it comes to dating, it’s all about maturity and timing. Are you two on the same maturity level? Let’s take a look.
Ages 18-24: Men and women are looking for instant gratification.
But not the same kind of instant gratification and definitely not in the same place. Men in this age group are typically looking for more of a physical relationship whereas women are looking for instant gratification on more of an emotional level. They want to have the same story as the love songs and romantic movies they have grown up watching. They want to feel taken care of and protected, something that an older man will be able to provide.
Ages 25-29: Men and women are at the same level of maturity.
Usually during this age, men and women seem to be focused on establishing themselves. This is the time in their life that they want to travel, climb the corporate ladder or take on more responsibility. This is basically the stage that comes after college when the budget is a little bit bigger.
If you want to date someone in this category be ready to explore what life has to offer beyond college parties and pep rallies.
Ages 30 and up: Men and woman are set in who they are and what they want.
This age group is pretty clear. Both men and woman know exactly who they are and what their expectations are. They tend to be more upfront because they are less likely to have patience for games and people pleasing.
If you want to date someone in this age category, you pretty much have to take them as they are. Know that they will be upfront with you and won’t beat around the bush to seem more desirable. They know what they are looking for and won’t waste time on something that isn’t it.
To the women who want to date younger men:
When it comes to dating a younger man, you have to consider where you were emotionally at his age. Consider your level of maturity and think about what you were ready to commit to. Don’t jump all in without knowing where he wants the relationship to go and if the two of you are on the same page.
Many people can have a healthy relationship despite age gaps. The key to this is a clear understanding of each other’s expectations, aspirations, and needs. You have to be sure of where each other stand before you decide to go all in, so you don’t end up getting hurt, no matter the age!