Being cheated on is one of the worst feelings in the world. That moment when your heart drops as you realise your partner isn’t the person you thought they were has got to be one of the most painful thing anyone can experience. People find out about unfaithful partners in various ways – sometimes they come clean; sometimes the ‘other person’ ends up letting you know; or sometimes, things come to light in a much more dramatic way.

Here are Reddit’s craziest stories of the moments people found their partners cheating on them.

1. Poor woman

I was 8 months pregnant with our second child at the time and he wanted to go visit his brother for the weekend. I asked my doctor if it was safe for me to travel and she said it would be fine. I told my husband I could go but he said he was really hoping to just have some time with his brother, I understood because a new baby really makes it hard to spend quality time but I asked if he could take our older son (3yo at the time) so he could see his grandma and cousins.

He said they were planning on drinking and whatnot and wasn’t sure it would be a good idea. (They’re country boys so think shooting, drinking and whatnot) I agreed and he left for the weekend. After he left I get a call from his best friend telling me that he’ll be in town for the weekend and he wanted to meet up, not weird he called me because my husband was terrible at answering his phone.

I told him unfortunately my husband was visiting back home, bad timing. His best friend then said ok, I’m going to call you back. And hung up very abruptly. Turns out my husband and his wife had been caught by him a few months previously and he gave them a chance to make it right…I don’t know why. He didn’t tell me but threatened to if they didn’t stop.

Well, they didn’t stop and he told me. I think the worst part was that my husband’s family knew and never once thought to tell me. These people were my family for 5 years and nothing. It’s been almost 10 years now and I’m so much happier but it was definitely an eye opening experience.


2. Keeping it in the family

Worst one I know of is an acquaintance of mine, came home from work one day and found his missus having sex with his dad. That blew up all over Facebook, and became a local drama fest where people tried to organise a shunning of the dad and missus. I remember it well because, well… I know people cheat, but with your partner’s father? Come on.


3. Serious sleuthing

Wife was acting unusual for a few weeks. She would want to spend time by herself on the weekends and when she came home at night from work she would often sit in the driveway for 20 minutes on the phone. I’m not dumb. I bought a voice activated digital recorder and stuck it in her car. I knew what I needed to know in less than 24 hours.


4. Plot twist

I was in the Navy and was out on deployment for 6 months after just recently getting engaged (it’s one of those stupid things that young military guys do). One day I get a letter from my fiancée’s best friend telling me that she caught my fiancée and her BF together (this was years before email and smartphones were common).

We write back and forth several times and eventually it comes out how she caught them, how my fiancée begged her not to tell me, and that the fiancée didn’t know that we were corresponding. I eventually get back to the States and planned to play it off as though I didn’t know, but too many of my friends intercepted me with the news that is wasn’t just the one guy, but several, and let me know that she knew that I was aware.

Eventually we met, and the confrontation was minimal and tame. We broke off the engagement without a lot of drama – she kept the ring. The best friend and I ended up hooking up, at first as sort of a revenge-f*** kinda thing, but turned serious. We celebrate our 32nd wedding anniversary this year.


5. Heartbroken

My best friend was friends with my gf and her roommates. Word got to my friend about her bringing some dude home after a party and my friend eventually spilled to me. As she said “I really don’t want to tell you this and I know this will crush you, but I can’t keep this from you.”

After she dropped the bomb I was like “Hell no! That would never happen!” and then I confronted by gf about it that night who broke down and confessed everything. I stayed with that girl for another 7 months and God bless my friend for sticking by my side and supporting the whole way.

When I finally ended things, my best friend was still there to support me and care for me. Also haven’t dated anyone for longer than 6 months since that happened 7 years ago…


6. A chance encounter

We were together for 5 years, living together for around 4. I came home from work early. When I got out of my car I saw her peek through the blinds to see who was outside. I walked in the door to her coworker on the couch, obviously uncomfortable and clothes messy and her locked in the bathroom.

I wanted to pummel the s*** out of him then and there, but he was a trained MMA fighter, and I woulda left the house that night with more than a broken heart. Went to a friend’s house for a while. They started dating the next day. S*** sucks. It took a while for me to get trust back in relationships.


7. A family affair

She confessed to her mom… then mother-in-law called her other daughter and told her…sister-in-law then called me and told me. She let me listen in on a three way call to her mom and tried to convince mom to tell me but she refused which basically confirmed it.


8. How horrible

He went to Hawaii for a business trip without his wife and kids. Like a good wife, I packed his clothes before he left and unpacked his dirty laundry when he returned home. I found a tiny pair of white cotton panties (no lace) in his suitcase. He had recently dropped a lot of weight (>100 lbs) and played it off that he had bought them for himself…. they had no label and were simple bikinis so theoretically could have been men’s as well.

It did sort of explain the pretty brunette that followed him off the plane at the airport and kept looking at my kids and I at the luggage carousel (what an a** to make his side piece come face to face with his wife and kids). I made sure he wore those panties at least once a week for the remaining few months we were together (I set out his clothes everyday and he couldn’t protest).


9. A gradual realisation

It wasn’t a big dam-breaking moment. It was a lot of little things. Like how she’d cancel plans at the last second. Or the random phone calls from unknown numbers she’d get (this was back before spam calls were an epidemic), or how her phone was mysteriously off one night when I needed to get a hold of her.

I had my suspicions and then finally it clicked into place when I did some Instagram snooping and found a guy who followed her who posted a selfie wearing a very unique jacket that belonged to her. I confronted her the next day. She denied it. Tears. Begging. All of that. I dumped her and walked away. The next day I messaged that guy on Instagram and he confirmed everything. Had no idea I existed. He dumped her too.


10. Karma got them

4yrs ago I was dating a girl who became distant and disinterested in a lot of things we both enjoyed together. Despite attempts to talk about it, she only grew more distant then became less available to hang out and suddenly was working late a lot. I started getting suspicious about cheating when she was on her phone nonstop.

Again I tried to talk about it but she wouldn’t engage. She also just didn’t want to break up with me for whatever reason. I was actually going to end it on my own, but one weekend when she was seemingly unavailable, some mutual friends told me they spotted her with a dude from her work and they were all over each other.

Coincidentally, she had also lent me her iPad and it was synced to her phone so I saw lots of texts between those two over that weekend. They were talking about running away together, etc. He was married and her supervisor. Mutual friends were also composed of her coworkers and reported them to HR.

They were both forced to do training on not sleeping with coworkers, they were both denied promotion, his wife left him, and she moved overseas. Sucked at the time, I was devastated, but karma got them good.


11. Going to see a ‘friend’

My mom had a boyfriend when my parents met, and she broke up with him to be with my dad. Fast forward ten years or so my parents are married with two kids: my older brother and me. Anyway, she travels for work semi-often and she started taking trips to see her “friend” in Chicago.

I was young enough that I don’t really remember when it started, but my I noticed that my dad was really irritable on these weekends. I think I was about twelve when I realized what was going on. I figured it out before my brother did. I used to sit at the top of the stairs and listen to my parents argue.

I don’t even remember if I heard something that gave it away, if it slowly dawned on me as I grew up, or if one day it just hit me. It’s always just been a part of my life that my mom lies. Still is. My dad used to beg me to not say anything to her that I knew because A) he was desperate to keep the family together and 2) my mom would get on his case for getting the kids involved. No joke.

One day, during the summer after I graduated high school, I came home from work to find my mom in the garage loading up her car. I asked her why she was putting blankets in her car and she got quiet for a moment and said “well… I’m moving out.” I just went inside. Later she texted my dad that she had moved to her brother’s house. That’s how he found out.


12. Never saw him again

June 1, 2018. Normal day. A Friday. My husband had kissed me goodbye and gone to work. I was cleaning the house for company who was coming to stay the weekend. The doorbell rang. There was a man at my door who introduced himself as the husband of a woman who my husband worked with. He was there to tell me that my husband and his wife were having an affair.

He had busted them about six months prior and had told his wife that she had to end the affair. He thinks that she did end it…for about three months, but then they started up again. When he found out they were at it again, he called my husband (because he knew if he confronted him in person, he’d be in a jail cell for what he’d have done).

On the phone, he told my husband to leave his wife alone or else he would come and tell me everything that was happening. Apparently, my husband thought that he was bluffing. So I was literally the last to know. My husband never came home again. He got an air b’n’b and a lawyer. The divorce was December 21, 2018. We had been together for 24 years. Still hurts.


13. Found out at work

I was at work, as was he, and a man came through the doors and asked for me directly. I introduced myself and he said “Hello, my name is XYZ and your husband has been having an affair with my wife”. It was 8 days to our 3 yr anniversary. The affair had been ongoing for 6 months and he had a slew of evidence to prove it.

We had lunch together, where he explained everything to me. His wife of 12 years, having 4 children together. I confronted my husband that night and he didn’t even attempt to deny it, he wasn’t even sorry. I moved out with our 2 yr old daughter that night and we were divorced 3 months later. It’s been 9 years now and still blows my mind.


14. A living nightmare

I owned a house with my fiancé. I woke up in the middle of the night and he wasn’t in bed. I went searching. His truck and another vehicle were in the driveway. Then, I went upstairs and found the guest bedroom was locked. After barging my way in… I found him with another woman in bed. That bed happened to be my childhood bed.

He forced me out of the room… literally grabbed me by the neck and pushed me out and closed the door back. I knew I couldn’t do anything at that point, so I called his parents who lived a few blocks away. His dad showed up and another fight broke out.

I ended up leaving and staying at his parents’ house until dawn. I moved out that weekend and let the house foreclose. Nine years later… the house is finally off my credit report, I’m happily married to an amazing man and we own a beautiful home together.


15. That’s got to hurt

The husband of one of the women he was cheating on me with called me at work. At first I didn’t believe him and hung up. How could the man I spent the past 8 years with, had 2 beautiful babies with, suffered together the loss of one of those children do something so hurtful?? Still a part of me had doubt.

He had affairs in other relationships and we had a rocky patch early in the beginning where I suspected an affair but didn’t have proof. I told my boss I felt sick and had to leave early and I called this guy back and found out that my ex and his wife along with one of their friends were all sleeping together for about a year.

He had confronted my ex and told him that he was going to tell me but my ex convinced him to wait a month since my mother had just died. I took my time coming home and confronted him and told him to pack and leave. Since I’ve pieced together a lot of what happened and all the lies he told me where if I was in a different headspace I might have caught on to the affairs earlier.

I also found videos hidden on one of our computers and found out he was having bootycalls in our apartment while I was at work and he was watching our daughter. At that point it put the headstone on any possibility of reconciliation.


16. Ran away from home

Classic love at first sight. I love you after 2 weeks. Moved in together after 2 months. Engaged after 6. Been together for 4 years and change. Left my rent control bachelor pad and picked a bigger apartment so she could have her art studio. Did everything together and split all bills 50/50. We had different jobs in the same industry and made around the same money.

We really loved each other and, as cliche as it sounds, completed each other: I am very analytical and stoic and she is a liberal artist. She goes to ComiCon in NYC (she is an expositor) I help her pack. I drop her at the airport. Everything was fine. No signs of anything. She should be back in 4 days. She never came back home.

She simple disappeared. Ghosted. The day she should be home I freak out that she may be dead just to find myself blocked on everything: email, phone, social media, the works. Everything I know is due to the bills she left behind (all unpaid) the credit card we shared (she stopped paying 2 months before) and her cell phone bill (which T-Mobile was nice enough to give me a log because technically was on my SSN).

Found one particular NYC area code over and over on the call history and put 2+2 together. She met him on San Diego ComiCon few months before and methodically and systematically put together a plan to abandon me, take as much as she could to NYC and never look back.


17. Dodged a bullet

I found out at the ultrasound to determine the gender of our child. He was late and I was noodling on Facebook waiting to be called. He was tagged in some photos in my news feed from a gig he’d been at on the previous weekend. Random lass was in all the photos of him and they were all over each other. Also they were making out in the background of one photo.

He turned up after I was called in. While the technician was printing the images I told him I knew. He went off and on about how I was making it up, he’d never do that, obviously I was lying to compensate for cheating on him and so on. When I pointed out there were photos he stormed out and left me there.

My Dad had turned up during the appointment (anticipating that he’d react badly if we were having a girl, which he did, that was scattered through the cheating denials) and took me home. I considered us broken up at that point and stopped all contact except texts related to the pregnancy.


18. Found out from the other woman

Funnily enough the girl he was cheating on me with actually told me. She messaged me at 3 in the morning asking if I was still with my ex and I said yes he’s asleep next to me, why? She told me what happened, sent me screen shots and I grabbed his phone. I believed her but ya know just wanted to see it all for myself.

I left the room and looked through it all, he didn’t even try to hide it. I went back in threw something at him to wake him up and confronted him, of course he played dumb. Said he didn’t know who I was talking about blah blah blah. Then I said oh ok well maybe this will jog your memory and pulled his phone out of my pocket.

The look on his face was priceless. He knew it was over. I screamed at him, I called him every name under the sun and then he left the house. This was a year ago now, and then a few months after that I’m being told that he misses me, f*****g pathetic.


19. Caught in the act

I couldn’t find my then wife after she got off work one afternoon/evening. I tried to call her cell phone with no answer. She didn’t show up to the house until 9:30 pm. She weaved some tale about getting stuck in traffic. I did some sleuthing and pulled the State Farm good driving app up which tracks your movements.

I found out she had been leaving work early, going to the nearby rest area off of the expressway, and having sex with a 20-something trucker she met at her previous job. I decided to interrupt the festivities one afternoon. I showed up to the rest area, parked in front of his rig, and jumped right up to the door.

The cabin shade was drawn. I withdrew the shades and saw my loving ex wife […] He had the gall to tell me to give them privacy. I didn’t handle it very well. I promptly filed for divorce. The icing on the cake is that a few months after I left, she cheated on her new trucker friend and is well on her way to her 7th “friend”.


20. An awful story

Was (~6 months in) recovering from being hit by an SUV as a pedestrian that left me with a severe TBI (GCS of 4), broken back (3 places), legs (two places), and pelvis (2 places). I had moved back in with my then-GF for about a week when we went to a party and I got left at the party because she couldn’t find me.

I didn’t know any of these people as they were all her friends and none of them could help me get home when I was told she left with the group we arrived with. I managed to walk back to the apartment quite drunk, tired, and in pain from over using my still recovering injuries; banged on the door till my knuckles bled only to have a dude answer the door, let me in, and then he proceeded to crawl back into bed next to her, in my bed. I didn’t have the cognitive ability to deal with that.

So I laid down right on the floor next to the bed and and passed out. She broke up with me the next day and blamed me for it. This story has so much more detail to it, but I don’t want to re-live that year of trauma in too much detail.


21. Found out through Facebook

Back then Facebook used to display on your profile stuff like “dontsayaword2 liked a photo” and everything you did. I noticed he liked a photo of a girl that seemed to be someone he had recently added. So I checked her profile and she was one of those girls who think “they won” because men cheat on their partners with them.

She had everything public, photos with him, bragging about the texts they exchanged etc. So I engineered a way to befriend her roommate, I would then find out she was bringing other dudes home besides my boyfriend and when I confronted him I also let him know about who else she was sleeping with and for him to get an STD test.


22. Caught red-handed

My (now ex) husband demanded constant access to all of my social media and cell phone messages and was constantly accusing me of cheating even though he had no reason to think I would do that. I had nothing to hide. I never even thought of cheating.

I was watching our young kids 24/7 and didn’t even have transportation since he “accidentally” totalled my car. One day I handed over my phone for him to check for other men and asked to see his. He hesitated but then handed it over. There was a long, sexual, text history.

It was with one of the teenage girls who works for him. He tells me he’s in love with her and wants her to move in with us. I was in total shock, dropped his phone cracking it. He retaliated by breaking my laptop. He’s a wonderful man and I miss him every day… sarcasm.


23. A message that changed everything

Dated a girl for about two years. Like 18 months into the relationship we’re talking about moving in together. Then kinda out of no where she starts becoming distant and irritable. We ended up breaking up. Fast forward 3 months after the break up I found that Facebook has a section where messages from non-friends are kept.

Turns out my then gf was banging her ex and the UPS driver that delivered to her store at the mall. In my messages was a note from the UPS driver’s then-WIFE. [My ex] ended getting with the UPS driver and his 3 kids. Last I checked they’re f*****g miserable and it brings me joy every time I think about it.


24. That’s genius

A friend of mine was suspicious of her husband cheating, as he went to “play soccer with friends” way too often. He always came already showered as he would sweat playing. One day she sewed his soccer socks together, and when he came back all showered she saw the socks were still sewed, so he wasn’t playing soccer at all.


25. Brutal

I didn’t catch her, she told me and told me I wasn’t a real man and that’s why she did it. She just told me everything she hated about me, went on to why I’m worthless pulled over, kicked me out the car and I had to walk back to my place.

As far as my reaction went. I went home, cried, went to bed, stayed in bed for a few days, thought I was a terrible person for a few weeks, cut my holiday leave short and went back to work early to get my mind off things.


26. A poor excuse

I was at work and tried to call my boyfriend, but he wasn’t answering even after a few hours, and I just got a horrible feeling. It stressed me out so badly for some reason that I started to cry and my boss let me go home. The whole way home I just kept feeling serious dread.

Walked in the house and into my bedroom, and he was laying in bed half-clothed with some chick. Obviously a huge blowup went down, and after everything settled, this motherf****r tried to tell me that he went to the movies alone and met her there and she “followed him home”…

It was a s****y abusive relationship, and it didn’t even end then. I eventually broke up with him but not on the spot like I should have. If I could change anything about my life, it would be that I wish I broke up with that guy sooner. That was over ten years ago though!


27. Being the other woman

All these answers are about people who caught their spouses cheating, however I briefly became the “other” woman (unbeknownst to me) and it’s never sat right with me… I met a guy who was fun and great and very “busy” which was exactly what I was looking for as I was grieving and didn’t want anything serious.

4 months of romance later I find out he’s actually married with small children. We were with his colleagues after work at a bar and a coworker asked him where his wife was. I kept my cool, didn’t make a scene but once drinks were over I obviously brought it up and said how terrible that made me feel. I ended up just ghosting him after that.

I wasn’t in the mental state to deal with any of the fallout so I just stopped replying to messages. I should have contacted the wife but I didn’t want to bother playing relationship police. At the time I was under a lot of stress and grief and had my own problems and emotions to deal with.

It’s been 5 years and I always feel so terrible for the wife whenever I think about what happened. Sometimes I feel like contacting her and telling her what happened but I don’t know if it’s the right move or even worth it.


28. Sneaking around

My ex and I used to share a computer. She was getting messages from her first boyfriend. I didn’t bother reading them, because I figured he was just saying hi or wanted to know where she was in life now. A couple of months later, I’m on the computer, and she insisted that she log out while I’m there.

Okay. Things feel weird here. Another couple of days pass, and she wants to visit her parents. Okay cool. I keep the kids and she goes off. I get a call from one of my buddies who works at a hotel where my ex and I are both from saying my wife just checked in with another guy. So long story short, divorced her.


29. Raised suspicions

My ex thought he had deleted the texts. I didn’t usually go through his phone at all, but I had this suspicion that he was seeing someone else based on his behavior, his hiding his phone, and by staying later at work. I was actually really hurt, but mostly angry at myself for being stupid enough to date him.

I had been warned he was no good but I wanted to fix him, and I ended up getting hurt just like all the others. My reaction was initially asking him for an explanation. He tried to cover it, and lied to my face. I immediately told him to get the f*** out of my house and so he did.

He responded to this by saying some very personal things about me on Twitter. It was a really bad time for me, and I hadn’t done anything wrong. But I picked myself up, got the courage to apply to a job at a larger company a few hours away, and ended up moving to a bigger city. It was there that I met my now husband.


30. An abrupt end

My friend and his wife were in Rome a few years ago on vacation, she got a text while in the shower and he found out she was cheating. He grabbed his passport, phone and wallet, took a cab to the airport and flew home without leaving a message or saying a word to her… The last conversation they ever had was her telling him she was going to take a shower.


31. A close shave

Was dating a girl during college. Took her on a vacation to the beach where I had planned on proposing to her as we had been together 4+ years. While she was in the shower checked her phone looking for something. Saw several pictures of her making out with someone from her college.

It had apparently been happening for several months. Led to an awkward drive home for sure. Dropped her off at the airport the day after ending things. She ended up becoming an anti-vax and essential oils believer so dodged a bullet there.


32. A lucky escape

I caught my ex husband cheating as an accident, we had gone to work in the evening and I couldn’t get into my office due to a building screw up, so he let me in his so I could print something. He went for a walk to get his “steps” in. As I was on his computer I realised it was logged in to Facebook. I just had a feeling.

I looked in the messages and he had been chatting with a woman he met in another country via our work. I copied all I could and confronted him when he returned.I made him take me for a drink and told him there would be no reconciliation. He was shell shocked and I told him to go home and pack a bag. That was 6 months ago and I’m really happy to have lost the dead weight.


33. A loyal best friend

I lived in a house with my best friend and my girlfriend, I was working one night at my pub and got a phone call from my best friend to the work telephone as I don’t answer mine whilst I’m working. Apparently he came back from grabbing a few drinks with his work colleagues and found my now-ex in bed with another man.

My friend being completely wasted decided that he didn’t like that and wound up throwing [this] guy down the stairs and beating the hell out of him once he reached the bottom. I immediately came back and rushed from work to find the police at the door with the guy in the back of the cop car wearing his boxer shorts and cuffs being attended to by a medic.

My mate was sat in the front room talking to the other officer, he was let off with a caution as it was an “understandable” reaction even though he was drunk. I am honestly so glad to say that he still lives with me because otherwise I would’ve never found out.


34. Found out on Facebook

He left his Facebook open. I saw his messages, he was telling his ex he was single and invited her to a wedding I was only told about vaguely. The messages got very sexual…Thankfully my friend was with me, she helped me calm down. I basically told him I was disgusted and didn’t want to see him ever again.

He tried apologizing, he tried giving me gifts, he even tried proposing to fix things. It made me hate him 100% more. I ended up calling his ex and informing her that we were in a three year relationship, I told her she could have him but he would most likely cheat on her too if he didn’t already.

She played stupid and said she didn’t know what I was talking about so I’m assuming they’re meant for each other. He tried to control me by holding my stuff hostage lol. I ended up telling him “burn it, wear it, sell it, I don’t f***ing care.” I got to start fresh with a whole new wardrobe and a whole new me. Couldn’t be happier!


35. Trust your gut

I was in my third trimester with our son. I had a weird feeling about how my husband had been acting lately, nothing that stood out, just a feeling. We were getting ready to go on a date. He was getting in the shower and hesitated to put his phone down in front of me.

I instantly knew. In all of our years together I had never looked through his phone or I would have found out much sooner. He had been in a friends with benefits situation for ten years with a married woman that he had known since high school.


36. A happy accident

His phone died and he wanted to check his Facebook, so he logged onto his Facebook on my phone. He forgot to log out (and I assumed he logged himself out). We were supposed to meet the next day (we didn’t live in the same city) but he sent me a text saying he wasn’t feeling well.

So he went home. No problem there, I told him to take it easy and rest. I even offered to visit him and take care of him, but he said no. That night I wanted to check my Facebook. Didn’t realise his account was still logged in. Thought I had a private message.

It was a message from the girl that had been chasing him for the past few months, saying she had fun that afternoon and they should hang out again soon. Everything clicked and I dumped him lol.


37. A traumatising experience

Wasn’t my SO, but my dad in 2012. I guess he didn’t set up iCloud correctly and so all of the messages that were being sent back and forth between my father and his mistress were being sent to me. I was 15 and already having a mental breakdown, and having to show everything to my mom made everything so much worse.


38. Trust your intuition

She’d been acting off my entire visit so when she took a shower I looked at her phone […] I was in absolute shock at what I saw. I texted my sister. And a friend of mine that lived 3 time zones away. I showed them what I saw. They both suggested I leave immediately.

So I started packing. Before I knew it, she was standing there asking me what I was doing. I was in my boxers and a T-shirt with socks on and one shoe. I was in such a daze I had no idea how long I had stood there. I told her we needed to talk. So we did.

I just asked her what the hell was going on with our relationship. And why she was being so aloof. She shrugged it off and said it was me. I was running around in my own head finding things to worry about. Then she promised me everything was ok. I decided to believe her despite what I saw in her phone.

Until I got a text from that friend in the early morning asking if I was ok. I gave her an update. She encouraged me to leave and said I was being lied to. I finished packing while she slept. Loaded everything into my car not looking forward to the 5 hour drive home.


39. The truth always comes out

He wouldn’t let me do anything on his phone without him pulling up whatever I needed for me – if I needed a flashlight, he made sure to pull it up for me first. He also would angle his phone away from me while using it. So one night while he was sleeping, as invasive as it is, I went through his phone.

He had been sending nudes to random people. My heart immediately dropped and I couldn’t breathe. I woke him up and I think I screamed at him? I don’t remember much of anything between waking him up and crying myself to sleep.


40. A double betrayal

We were on the rocks after four years together. Mostly because he was a lazy piece of s*** who couldn’t hold down a job. We finally got sick of each other, broke it off, and he was FINALLY gonna move out. I relied heavily on our (previously) mutual friend, who “took my side” in the break up.

Aka, she took me out for drinks, we were working out together, and basically doing the post-break up girl stuff. He finally had the guts to tell me to stop hanging out with her because they had slept together. Multiple times over a few months, while we were still dating and “working on things”.

Not great to have my trust betrayed by two people. But, I was honestly more upset at her being two-faced, because I had already decided that he was garbage and wouldn’t waste anymore tears on him.


41. Revenge is sweet

My mother’s story, but I was so impressed with her. She had suspected my father was cheating for a while, so she hid a tape recorder in his car. She retrieved the recorder a few days later and had proof that not only was he cheating, he was sleeping with her BEST FRIENDS and talking s*** about her the whole time.

Well her opportunity to listen to the tapes came while my dad was getting LASIK. He hadn’t gotten to sleep soon enough, so he spent a few hours in agony while he recovered. It was while he was writhing around blind and in pain that she came into their room and played the recording of him screwing her best friend. I was in awe of how savage she was when I found out.


42. In the nick of time

Towards the end of amicable divorce (like 10 days before we signed and finalized) I get a call from a woman I haven’t spoken to in 15 years telling me her husband and my wife are sleeping with each other. Shocked couldn’t begin to describe it, my ex and this woman had been friends for 20 years.

I knew the guy (worked with him overseas). She had filed for divorce with the generic “I’m not happy” nonsense. I couldn’t figure out why she was adamant to divorce. That phone call and subsequent emails of these two idiots proclaiming their love for each other gave me clarity.

Guess it was good I found out so late in the process because I would have spent everything I had (I had 99% of $ in the relationship) ensuring she got nothing. We are out West and he lives on the East Coast so not sure how that relationship works out. Worst part is we have two small kids, 8 and 7 when it happened. They ask me every week why we got divorced and every time I have to bite my tongue nearly in half and keep quiet.


43. Heartless

My mother caught my father cheating while she was undergoing chemo. He owns a store and was frequently busy tending to his business. After one of her treatments, she brought some food by the shop to have an impromptu lunch with him, and walked in on him

He was with another woman behind the counter. Apparently, everyone locked eyes, it was clear what was happening, and she left. He then fought her viciously in the divorce, and she died about a year later. I no longer speak to him, because he’s a massive piece of s***.


44. With the boss

My (ex) wife and I always had open phones through our relationship. One night I checked her phone looking for a Hulu login screen shot, found a lot of nudes (she and I never exchanged those so red flag #1). I checked her messages and there were none, like she’d cleared them before she went to sleep (red flag #2).

Hopped on her iPad and found tons of messages with her boss, critiquing me and making fun of me while they were in a relationship. Took photos of the exchanges and then confronted her about it when she woke up. She blamed it on me and other things about our life.

I wasn’t perfect in some ways, but I also know now she threw away the best thing she ever had. After reading the woman I loved criticizing and making fun of me to her new lover, in explicit detail, I still deal with self confidence issues to this day, despite a loving great relationship I have now.


45. Sudden departure

Moved across the country with my gf to start new. New job, new city, a fresh beginning since we hadn’t been getting along for some time. The first full day we are there, I’m getting ready for my first day and my new job. Her phone is vibrating a ton on the bed and she is downstairs.

Look to see if it’s her mom and if everything is okay. It’s a text from someone named “Birdie” who I’ve never heard of. I open it up and look and she’s sexting with some dude she met in a bird watching class. I had to pull my s*** together, go to work (I didn’t have time to deal with this before work started) and then have this sitting on my head all day.

Finally I texted her and told her, I saw your texts, we are through, pack all of your s***, I’m flying you back home tonight. My phone rang constantly for the next 45 mins. Finally I excused myself for an early lunch and went back to the place we were staying to pick her up.

She was a mess but her bags were packed. She pleaded. I drove us to the airport. $750 on a one way ticket back home, which would also be followed up by shipping her car home as well as a bunch of her stuff that was being shipped. She pleaded at the airport. I held my ground.

She got on the plane. She called me 2 hours later from a connecting flight telling me that it got cancelled and she was stuck. I checked the airline and the flight was on time as scheduled. Good riddance. Pretty sure she never told her family the truth so I’m sure they hate me and think I did this on purpose. Either way, I met the girl of my dreams and it all worked out.


46. Shouldn’t have given him the benefit of the doubt

We went to a local Starbucks often enough that the baristas knew us. One day, I was hanging out and one of them came outside and asked if he and I were still together. I said yes and she replied that he had been flirting with one of the new girls pretty hard.

I honestly didn’t think about it much at the time. I trusted him completely and just thought they were mistaking his good nature for flirting. I never even mentioned it to him. Unfortunately, I was proven wrong when I was at the mall with some friends one day and saw him there with the other girl.

He had his hands in her back pockets and all. I was devastated. I texted him saying “She’s really pretty” and left. He went on to run away to Arizona with her. He was my first real relationship and I genuinely loved him, so it hit me really hard. I didn’t date for like 6 years after that.