You don’t share the same morals
Morals are vitally important when it comes to a relationship. If you both view the world from wildly different viewpoints, it’ll cause issues further down the road. Although you don’t have to agree on everything, there should be a decent amount of common ground that links you together.
They always put you down
If your boo is always making you feel bad, they’re not your soulmate – plain and simple. The right person will make you feel fantastic, boosting you up at every opportunity. If they’re constantly pointing out your flaws, slowly chipping away at your self-confidence, they aren’t the one for you.
You feel drained after spending time with them
Vibes don’t lie. If you feel drained of energy after spending time with your partner, it’s your mind’s way of trying to tell you something – they aren’t right for you. You should walk away with a spring in your step and a smile on your face, anything less than that is a key indicator that something’s amiss.
You both want different things
Sometimes, love isn’t enough. No matter how much you respect and care for each other, if you want different things in life, it’s not going to work out. Of course, there always needs to be a level of compromise, but when it comes to soulmates, things tend to fall easily into place.
You’re always questioning their intentions or actions
Why haven’t they texted me back? Why are they out so late? Did they really mean what they said the other day? If these thoughts are constantly running through your head, your partner isn’t your soulmate. The true love of your life will never leave you questioning their intentions, instead making you feel secure and content.
You’re together out of fear, not love
It’s all too common – people shack up together because they don’t want to be single, not because they’re truly in love. Do you care for the relationship more than the actual person? If so, there’s a glaring red flag. Not only are they not your soulmate, but your relationship is pretty much doomed to fail.
You can’t be yourself around them
If you’re constantly filtering and self-censoring yourself around your boo, they aren’t the one for you. Your soulmate will bring out the best version of yourself, letting your freak flag fly high. If the opposite is happening, it’s clear that this person isn’t right for you.
You’re self-conscious around them
Tugging at your sleeves, biting your nails, and trying to hide your body are all key signs of a self-conscious soul. If you exhibit these behaviors around your other half, it’s clear that something’s amiss. Your true soulmate will make you feel immediately comfortable, feeling as though you’ve known them forever.
You don’t trust them
Trust is perhaps the most important thing in any relationship. Without it, your connection is likely to fizzle out. You’ll naturally trust your true soulmate, rarely questioning their motives or intentions – simply feeling content, safe, and secure. If not? It’s probably best to walk away.
Something feels off
If in doubt, trust your gut. Everything may seem perfect on paper, but if your intuition is telling you that something isn’t right in your connection, listen to it. When you meet the one, your soul will immediately feel at peace, knowing that there’s nothing to overthink or question.
You argue – all of the time
Every couple encounters their fair share of arguments, it’s a natural part of being in a relationship. However, if these arguments are constant, dramatic, and erupt seemingly out of nowhere, there’s no chance that your boo is your soulmate. While you’ll still argue with your true love, they’ll be experiences that help to grow your connection, not hinder it.
You’re always making excuses for their behavior
If you’re constantly excusing your boo’s behavior to your friends and family, they aren’t the one. Not only can everyone else see it, but, deep down, you know it, too. Your soulmate will never embarrass you (at least, not in a negative way). Instead, you’ll be in awe of them, never apologizing for them expressing who they truly are.
You don’t see each other often
Of course, this is circumstantial for each and every couple. However, if you live nearby (or together) and there’s little effort put in on either side to make time for one another, it’s unlikely your relationship will stand the test of time. You should want to spend every minute with your boo, not feel as though it’s a mighty effort.
They don’t excite you
It’s not just a cliché you see in the movies – you should be excited to see your partner! Your face should light up when they walk into the room, and vice versa. If not, they aren’t your soulmate, they’re just another person you’ve fallen into a relationship with.
They don’t respect you
If you’re in a relationship that has no respect, you’re better off being single. Respect can come in many forms, whether it’s respect for your time, you as a person, or your emotions. Your soulmate will tick all of those boxes. If not? They’re not the right one for you.
You’re growing apart, not together
When you’re in a relationship, the goal is to grow together. This is certainly the case when you link up with your forever person. However, as time goes by, you may notice that you’re growing apart. Different interests, different life goals, and different career aims can all play a part in this, spelling out the beginning of the end.
You’re never their main priority
Your soulmate will prioritize you above everything else. On the flip side, a placeholder partner will treat you like an option, not a priority. Whether they spend more time with their friends or on their phone than they do interacting with you, if they leave you begging for their attention, they’re not as wonderful as you think they are.
They don’t like your friends or family
Your soulmate will slip into your life perfectly, seeming as though you’ve known them forever. A temporary partner, meanwhile, will cause disruption to your life – including your social circles. If they don’t like your friends or family – or vice versa – see it as a major red flag.
They don’t respect your boundaries
Boundaries are a huge indicator of whether your person is your soulmate or not. If they respect you, valuing your opinion and take in your thoughts, they’re likely the one for you. If they ignore you, disregard your thoughts and downplay your emotions, not only are they not your soulmate, but they’re a terrible partner.
You feel trapped
When you find your soulmate, you’ll feel liberated, as if a great weight has been lifted off your chest. If not, you’ll feel trapped – tied into a relationship that you’re too afraid to leave. This can happen for years – or even decades – with people staying with their partners simply out of obligation.
You don’t have anything in common
You don’t need to share the exact same interests – variety is the spice of life, after all. However, you do want to have some common ground. Your soulmate will fit this balance nicely, having a slew of their own, unique interests, while having some hobbies that line up with your own.
Neither of you open up
Your soulmate will make you feel safe and secure, allowing you to open up about your insecurities. If you find that you’re in a relationship where you rarely discuss topics of the heart, it’s unlikely that this person is your one true soulmate. Don’t try and force these conversations – sometimes, the silence can speak volumes.
When you picture your future, you don’t see them in it
Close your eyes, picturing yourself years into the future. What do you see? Do you see your spouse by your side, or are they no longer in your life? Whatever you see is your answer. If you picture your boo, there’s a chance you can go the distance. If you’re solo, it’s unlikely that your current person is your soulmate.
You’re never in sync
Finishing each other’s sentences, having the exact same thought, and craving the same foods are all signs of two people who are on the same wavelength. While this doesn’t have to be a common occurrence, when it comes to your soulmate, it should happen once in a while.
There’s zero chemistry
There should always be chemistry present in your relationship, whether you’ve been together for two weeks or two decades. If that spark isn’t there, your partner certainly isn’t your soulmate, reducing the relationship to a futile fling. If there are no deep, magnetic feelings, why are you even together?
They never compliment you
Compliments naturally start to dry up the longer your relationship goes on. However, your soulmate will never fall short of finding things to compliment you about. Whether it’s telling you how much they love you for the hundredth time or pointing out your gorgeous smile, your soulmate will always find something to gush over.
Date nights are non-existent
As relationships progress, date nights tend to become less and less common. However, this doesn’t mean that they should stop entirely. Every now and then, you or your boo will suggest a fun activity to do together – just the two of you. If this never happens, it could be a sign that you’re not destined to be together.
You worry about your texts
Rewriting, editing, and getting pals to look over texts before you send them is never a good sign. With your soulmate, you’ll feel at ease, happy to be your most authentic self. If you’re full of self-doubt or are worried about your partner’s reaction, it’s unlikely that they are your soulmate.
They see their pals more than you
There needs to be some sort of independence in a relationship, even with your soulmate. Forging connections outside of your connection is healthy, after all! However, if it seems as though your other half is prioritizing those connections above you, they probably don’t see you as their one true love, leaving you feeling alone and isolated.
They’re never happy to see you
Instead of welcoming you home with a warm smile and a kiss on a cheek, your partner may begin an endless tirade of complaints, pointing out all of your flaws. While communicating any issues is important, so is remembering to treat your spouse with respect. If your boo never lights up around you, it’s unlikely that they’re the one.
Endless grudges plague your relationship
No matter how many times you apologize, your partner simply won’t budge. Or, perhaps you’re the one holding onto a grudge, taking every available chance to throw a past mistake back in your partner’s face. If this resonates, your current person isn’t your soulmate. Grudges will fade away when you meet the right person, with forgiveness and acceptance being the norm.
You’re waiting for them to change
When you truly, deeply love someone, you accept them exactly how they are – flaws and all. If you, or your spouse, are willing the other to change, it’s unlikely that you’re each other’s forever person. Love is unconditional, and if you’re only loving someone from the perspective of hope, it’s unlikely to work out.
You wouldn’t make good friends
Ask yourself this – if you weren’t together, would you make good pals? If the answer is a no or a maybe, the person in question isn’t your soulmate. Having a solid friendship is the key to any long-lasting connection. Without it, the foundations of your relationship are rocky, leading to possible heartbreak.
You don’t feel safe
Your soulmate will make you feel safe at all costs. Their number one mission in life will be to protect you from the outside world, making you feel as happy as possible. If they’re not the one for you, you’ll likely feel on edge, nervous, and anxious.
You don’t miss them
A key indicator as to whether your person is your soulmate or not is if you miss them when you’re apart. If you do, they may be your lifelong partner. If not, it’s unlikely that you’ll be together long-term. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, after all.
You endlessly complain about them
We all need to blow off some steam every once in a while, moaning about the annoying habits of our spouse. If it’s constant, however, it’s a big problem. The main topic of conversation shouldn’t be centered around how much your dislike your boo. If it is, they’re not your true love.
You’re not happy
The best question you can ask yourself to discover whether your person is your soulmate or not is this: Are you happy? If the answer’s a no, then explore why. Sometimes, they can be the perfect person on paper, but, in reality, something is missing – a void that they can’t fill no matter how hard they try.
You’re giving more than you get
Relationships should be, for the most part, a 50/50 effort. This can change depending on the circumstance, but there should always be a level of equal support. If you’re putting in more than you’re getting out of the connection, your boo isn’t for you – you’ve simply put them on a pedestal.
You can’t confide in them
If you can’t talk to your loved one about deep, emotional matters, they’re certainly not your soulmate. While things may seem great on the surface, once you start to delve deeper, they may ignore you entirely, instead focusing on work on their other commitments.
When you’ve been together for a while, it can be easy to let romance fall by the wayside. Your soulmate, however, will always bring a splash of romance to the connection, even if it’s in small ways. Bringing you your favorite coffee or suggesting a sunset stroll will be frequent occurrences, keeping that romantic spark alive.